My boyfriend want’s me to go to prom with him. - Help.com

…he cried?

tell him. literally tell him that you cant go and that you wish you could but its so difficult i mean i would tell him exactly what you said on here.

Nante wrote:
…he cried?

yeah he cried. hes a very emotional person.

nicoleee(: wrote:
tell him. literally tell him that you cant go and that you wish you could but its so difficult i mean i would tell him exactly what you said on here.

i dont want to make him feel bad

Be forward. Tell him you are’nt going with him and he needs to find a date if he doesnt want to be dateless. Tell him you havent bought a plane ticket, you arent buying a plane ticket, and you wont buy a plane ticket.

well try putting it a little nicer but if you really dont want to go he respect that
ya know what i mean?

love her wrote:
Be forward. Tell him you are’nt going with him and he needs to find a date if he doesnt want to be dateless. Tell him you havent bought a plane ticket, you arent buying a plane ticket, and you wont buy a plane ticket.

yeah I agree

Nante wrote:

love her wrote:
Be forward. Tell him you are’nt going with him and he needs to find a date if he doesnt want to be dateless. Tell him you havent bought a plane ticket, you arent buying a plane ticket, and you wont buy a plane ticket.

yeah I agree

thats like mean thou. i dont want to be mean to him. like its really hard for him cuz his parents are going through a deviroce. i mean i dont wanna put him through anymore pain. im his bestfriend and he needs me alot. i cant just be mean to him like that. if someone said that to me i would dump then right there and then

Anonymous wrote:

Nante wrote:

love her wrote:
Be forward. Tell him you are’nt going with him and he needs to find a date if he doesnt want to be dateless. Tell him you havent bought a plane ticket, you arent buying a plane ticket, and you wont buy a plane ticket.

yeah I agree

thats like mean thou. i dont want to be mean to him. like its really hard for him cuz his parents are going through a deviroce. i mean i dont wanna put him through anymore pain. im his bestfriend and he needs me alot. i cant just be mean to him like that. if someone said that to me i would dump then right there and then

Tell him not to go, and to be a REAL manm saveing the money to come visit you instead.

Oh, i forgot, im banned from being blunt.

Tell him that….. Ninjas stole you pet dog and you have to go to.. Scotland to rescue him, or international druglords will.. er… take over the UK with their lazer bears and stuff. So its not really your fault but a national duty that calls you to do so, and you will send him a postcard when the world is saved.

If he cried when you said no i doubt he will dump you. You still need to be forward though. Maybe not those words, but you need to be forward and not feel guilty. Its not right of him to think you’re going after you’ve said no. You need to be honest and strict. And its very likely it will sound harsh, but you need to do it.

okay thanks. but i also have another problem. like i want to talk to him about cuttting and stuff like he keep cutting himself but ever time i bring it up he tells me to mind my own busnes and stuff. im really worried about him.

First off make sure that he is actually doing that. I’ve known people who are all “i cut my self, im going to kill my self, you broke my heart so i cut your initial in my hand so you’ll always be with me blah blah blah”

He might just want the attention and the ability to know you worry. If he cried about you not going to prom with him, i dont think he could take the sting of a blade cutting into his skin.

And if he really is, tell him you are dating him so it is your business. Write him an email about what ever you want to say to him. He will read it. Guaranty.

Presure him about it till you break him down and you talk about it together.

edge4lif wrote:

AtheistDad wrote:

Tell him that….. Ninjas stole you pet dog and you have to go to.. Scotland to rescue him, or international druglords will.. er… take over the UK with their lazer bears and stuff. So its not really your fault but a national duty that calls you to do so, and you will send him a postcard when the world is saved.

What a man lol i say go with that his reaction alone would be priceless even if he cried and broke up with u it would be worth it

how about no

i know he cuts. ive seen them before. but he just wont listen ive tried everything. he dosnt like its a problem he says its fine to do it cuz alot of people do

You’re boy friend is really immature. How long have you been dating?

2 years 4 months and 6 days.

Are you in love with him?

yes. i love him alot. he loves me too

I think you both have a lot to work out. Dating someone for that long, they would have opened up to you. And you wouldnt need to be having to deal with them not talking to you about the cutting. It might take a little work, but they should be able to tell you. Just keep asking him about it.

but if i keep asking him wont i be stressing him out and make him do it more?!?!

I get the feeling that you’re the type that would let him beat you just because he says he loves you.

This kid has problems. And you arent helping by sitting on ur @$$ and asking people about it. You need to tell him he needs help.