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I’m 17 years old and I feel so clueless, I’ve always had dreams of moving to a big city like New York,Chicago, or some where in cali. I love big band music and classical music(i also like rap, and some rock and other music), I love Frank Sinatra, Michael Buble and all of that kind of music and just having that sorta awesome job in a nice city and just have a life style of going to high society events and music type stuff you see in movies and I really don’t know anything about life yet, and I don’t even know what I’m really trying to ask you guys, but sometimes I’m really in the mood to do well in school and BE THE PERSON I WANT TO BE… but my attitude sorta fades sometimes i think i may be bipolar (sometimes i wonder if i’m just crazy..) or something because i usually have alot of different feelings in different times and cant really control myself to be any way i used to be really outgoing in middle school but now i’m sorta shy depending on the people i know in a class and who is in there but in other classes i can really be outgoing and i want to be outgoing like i’ve always been for the first part of my life and i always tell myself just do it just be yourself who cares what other people think you will be happy if you do later and its not like it matters what other people think at this time but i can NEVER bring my self to do it and it aggravates me so much i just debate debate myself all the time and spend alot of nights up at night getting mad that i can’t change and really go after the things i want and i can’t take it anymore i dont want to wake up one day being super old and thinking **** why couldn’t i just have done things differently and my life is wasted…

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linuxya offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 2 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

The problem is you are making the “change” TOO BIG. Break it down into pieces. You can follow your dream in little steps.

Just a week ago I saw a 15 year old jamming with a jazz band in a high class bistro here in my city (and it’s not a big city). The kid was really good! Get out there and find the opportunities where you are. You don’t have to do some huge change.

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braun offline Verified User (2 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Prior Lake, MN, US | 7 months, 2 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

make a list of the things you want to have in five years. This list doesn’t have to be set in stone, things can change, but it does give you good direction. Only put down the really important things (i.e. Marriage, living in New York, etc.) once you have a solid list of a few important things focus on how to get them. for example, if you want to move to New York and have a high paying job, you’ll probably want to go to college in that area. If you want to go to college you’ll have to get good grades and do a lot of extra curriculars right now. Knowing that the things your doing now are giving you want you really want later will help motivate you to keep trying. If you focus more you should be able to stick with it and feel better about yourself. Good luck!

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