friendship help: shall i touch base with him?

cheryl.lichen

shall i touch base with him?

i had a big fight with a guy like a month ago. it was bascially because something between us didnt work out and i was too pushy on everything so he didnt even want to be friends. but later he did apologise to me, saying that he was too hard to me during the fight. i didnt get his intention, didnt know if he was apologising for the fight or for not wanting to be friends but we havent talked to each other since then.
anyway, it’s been a month, do you think i should contact him first to break the ice and continue to be friends or should i just let it go as this is what it’s supposed to be?

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 4 weeks ago (2 minutes after post)

Follow your heart. That is the best advice I can give that I give all the time. Most ppl try to be “realistic”, but I dont agree with that. being realistic is giving up on love and fate.

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 4 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

No, don’t make the first move if he broke it off because you’ll seem needy. Don’t make excuses for anything, especially bad behavior. In the meantime, start moving on with you’re life. If he’s interested, he’ll see you can have a life of your own–which will make you more appealing. If he doesn’t contact you… you’re probably better off. Make yourself emotionally available just in case someone that appreciates you comes along.

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 4 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

wannaknowstuf wrote:
No, don’t make the first move if he broke it off because you’ll seem needy. Don’t make excuses for anything, especially bad behavior. In the meantime, start moving on with you’re life. If he’s interested, he’ll see you can have a life of your own–which will make you more appealing. If he doesn’t contact you… you’re probably better off. Make yourself emotionally available just in case someone that appreciates you comes along.

This is what I am talking about… Its a **** game. If more ppl would follow thier hearts, this world of ours wouldnt be as cold and dark as it is.

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 4 weeks ago (15 minutes after post)

It’s not a game. Men’s minds are wired differently. If he treats her badly and she chases him, it sends the message that she shouldn’t be respected, and who wants someone that they don’t respect?

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 4 weeks ago (20 minutes after post)

wannaknowstuf wrote:
It’s not a game. Men’s minds are wired differently. If he treats her badly and she chases him, it sends the message that she shouldn’t be respected, and who wants someone that they don’t respect?

well didn’t she claim that he apologized?

Start breaking the ice if you can bring yourself to do it. Make some small talk, and get to the point,(don’t just blurt it out) and ask if he would like to be “just friends”. Only if thats what you want of course, dont be befriending him because of past guilt or unsettled emotions that are completely inconsequential.

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 4 weeks ago (20 minutes after post)

wannaknowstuf wrote:
It’s not a game. Men’s minds are wired differently. If he treats her badly and she chases him, it sends the message that she shouldn’t be respected, and who wants someone that they don’t respect?

Women are the same **** way. I’m not saying your wrong in your advice, I am just saying that ppl as a whole need to quit doing this stuff. Ppl need to get back to the basics of life and understand and respect the power of love. Not lust, not games, none of that, just love.

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 4 weeks ago (25 minutes after post)

unsoshable wrote:

wannaknowstuf wrote:
It’s not a game. Men’s minds are wired differently. If he treats her badly and she chases him, it sends the message that she shouldn’t be respected, and who wants someone that they don’t respect?

Women are the same **** way. I’m not saying your wrong in your advice, I am just saying that ppl as a whole need to quit doing this stuff. Ppl need to get back to the basics of life and understand and respect the power of love. Not lust, not games, none of that, just love.

Perhaps this is why I am the nice guy that finishes last, but I cannot be selfish when it comes to others and the way I feel about them.

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