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go public…. and tell the media that you want a relationship with him.

thats prolly not the best route, however, I dont know of any other way, because he would have to be willing to give a DNA sample. He may also be scared you are going to try and get some of his fame, money, whatever.

I hope the best for you.

Sounds complicated but its understandable that they refuse that. Its probably common for people to pretend they are related to celebrities.

Maybe you could find a paparazi and ask how they get in contact with celebrities but just ask casually. DO NOT TELL THEM YOU THINK YOUR RELATED TO ONE! That will just make it a big public thing and it will make it look like your after money or something so you need to keep it a secret.

the family on father’s side convinced me to do that already - last year - it drove a wedge between us - he’s kind and talks to my kids - but me he won’t acknowledge even if I’m in the same room - he just shakes his head and walks away.

Anonymous wrote:
the family on father’s side convinced me to do that already - last year - it drove a wedge between us - he’s kind and talks to my kids - but me he won’t acknowledge even if I’m in the same room - he just shakes his head and walks away.

I really dont know what to say. Maybe he is upset about something the father did, or something like that. Maybe it has nothing to do with you, but he is running from you to get away from the situation.

I am intrigued who it is.

I really hope this works out for both of you.

you are right about one thing. He hates our father. So maybe that’s why he avoids me.

Do you want to piggyback on his fame or something?

Well its more than blood that makes brothers though, try and make friends with him is best i can come up with.

- Fourthings™ - wrote:
Do you want to piggyback on his fame or something?

his mom died so hes just looking for family i think in this case

blood is a start - but I think he should at least meet me halfway - if he can communicate with my children - then why shut me out?

Because you are a direct relation to your father in his mind. Something he wants to shut out.

He is being selfish…

Anonymous wrote:
blood is a start - but I think he should at least meet me halfway - if he can communicate with my children - then why shut me out?

- Fourthings™ - wrote:
Do you want to piggyback on his fame or something?

hes worried about that i bet

unsoshable wrote:
Because you are a direct relation to your father in his mind. Something he wants to shut out.

He is being selfish…

And I feel we are not getting the entire story…

I wouldn’t wish to take away all he’s earned in life - but if he weren’t famous - maybe our relationship would come easier - sometimes I find myself wishing he wasn’t famous

Anonymous wrote:
I wouldn’t wish to take away all he’s earned in life - but if he weren’t famous - maybe our relationship would come easier - sometimes I find myself wishing he wasn’t famous

maybe you could ask a psychologist type person about it to see what they think its about, dont say “famous” just say high ranking important person

This is a tough one =/

psychologist opinion on this - let him come to me - and try to be patient in regards to his attention to my kids instead of me

Yes, I agree with the shrink.

Sounds like it would work for now, I mean you havent known eachother and because your his brother it would take a while for him to accept that

he’s my brother =I’m his sister

anon = female?

Anonymous wrote:
he’s my brother =I’m his sister

oooooh sorry about that, I either missed you saying it before or read something wrong

Thats what I thought. I could tell by the writing.

Well I really do hope he comes around, but ya gotta keep it in your mind, that if he doesnt, its his loss.

it may be his loss - but it’s confusing the kids

I know, but that is something they will understand later in life.

Kids are always confused about family… I know I was when I grew up and I am sure you were too.

I dont even really see or talk to my nieces much at all so hes being closer to your kids than I am with my family.

Im sure it will come to a clear conclusion at some point.

hope so it is wearysome to be on the outside looking in - especially when my children were invited in