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Olivia…
im not sure on the dna testing thing. I do believe that he has the right to do one once the child is ready for testing because I do not think he would sign his last name onto a child he has doubts about. He would have the right, especially if she brags about the child being his.
The other thing is that it is up to him whether to recognize the child with or without a paternity test. Its basically his decision.
If I recall right, there is a thing as a “legal” dna test and a “non legal”, legal will hold up in court, non legal wont.
You can maybe google around a test lab in your area and give’ em a call.

I hope you are OK with all the possibilities of what could be coming, especially if they both are STILL in contact.

Take care. Thanks for the invite.
Nice to hear from you.

Quick question…
were you being sarcastic on the title of your post?
=S

You can get a DNA test done at the Child Support Office, or you can purchase a home paternity test at Walgreen’s. Good luck with everything.

omg.. I don’t really know what to say.. I don’t know how to get a DNA test.. Stay positive until you can know for sure.. On the other hand he cheated on you, and I would be pissed.. But I don’t know.. It will be okay, and you know he will appreciate you staying with him..

I know it’s hard to stay positive.. things often seem helpless and all negative, but they always improve..

Yea, I have been a lil’ bit ‘disconnected’ lately… lol

olivia christine wrote:
they have paternity tests
you can buy at the store??
how accurate are those?

http://www.dnatesting.com/dna-paterni…

They are not very cheap, but they are trustworthy.

Check ‘em out.

olivia christine wrote:
omfg! 149 dollars???!!!
that’s insane!! lol

I think here applies the “you get what you pay for”…

lol

BUT!
If Mr bf wants to know if he is the father or not, thats more less the price range he will have to pay and it can be even more expensive when done at a lab. I guess thats the price one pays for a piece of mind.

=S

I hope it all goes well for you olivia.
Take care.

olivia christine wrote:
joey-
later down the road, she’s gonna want his money. and him in the childs life… which would mean she would see him. and im not being nice anymore about it and letting her see him without her getting a black eye from me first, LOL
it may be his “price to pay”

=O

You are dangerous!

hahaha

funny…
..but on a serious note…
Olivia, it kinda’ strikes me that all this you say is something you consciously know. You probably know that ’seeing a bumpy road ahead’ is not the same as actually ‘riding over the bumpy road you saw ahead’ know what I mean?

Give it some time. Lets see how his ex reacts if she indeed decides to do something about her expecting a child…you know…’do something’ that involves you and your bf.

I hope she respects your relationship and takes it easy.

You are welcome, btw.

One other thing…
I bet you do not remember what flavor was the bubblegum you were chewing the moment you decided to take the pic you have as your avatar.

olivia christine wrote:
actually I do, strawberry bublicious gum :]
one of my favorite types of bubble gum, haha

=O

Im more a ‘dentyne’ type.

and yeah you’re right all we can do is wait and be patient :/
and it’s killing me..

I can imagine how bothering it is for you.
Waiting sucks, but how is your relationship going? Is it OK? (if I may ask).

olivia christine wrote:
yeah, besides that were doing great.
we live our lives like theres nothing going
on with his ex and the possibility of her carrying
his child. we’re enjoying all the time we have left, pretty much..

Thats good. Idk why, but I actually thought his ex was the stalker type, but one that just bothered once in a while.

I hope it stays the way you described.
Take care.

olivia christine wrote:
wow you depicted her perfectly.. how could you tell??

idk for sure…but Ive seen too much similarities between your story and others I have heard about. She must also be jealous too.

I do know that he is supposed to keep her at bay. Not communicate with her and ignore her completely, especially with the attitude she has. If he is sure he wants nothing to do with her, he should move on with you. You should be sure that he is having no contact whatsoever with her, he’s supposed to do that out of ‘love’ (which includes ‘respect’) for you by safe-keeping your trust in him.

I dont think you would like to see him still talking with her, especially if you both are in a relationship.
I dont think he would like to see you talking with an ex either.

=S

IMO, its hard to see an ‘ex’ as a friend once too much was already given as bf/gf, usually emotions get all mixed up and foggy.
They also were together a couple of years, right?

It boils down to him, how he manages his ex’s attitude.
He’s the one being ‘tested’, and I think its for you to see how he acts and therefore you decide on your own well-being.

I hope you are doing OK.
Be safe.