I’ve lost all of my friends.
I had a group of friends that I used to hang out with. They all started to drift away from me because I started to hang out with some of my other friends more (I try to spend an equal amount of time with everybody because we’re about to graduate). They didn’t like that so much so they started hurting me. I decided that was not what I needed so we haven’t talked in 3 weeks. It’s spring break this week and I went camping with my other friends. I don’t drink or smoke or do anything of that nature and they know that I don’t like it. They told me before we went that nothing like that was going to happen and that it was going to be just us 7 girls for 4 days. ALL of them stayed drunk those 4 days and guys went in and out. I wanted to go home but I rode with one of them and I couldn’t call my parents because even if I didn’t do anything they wouldn’t believe it. I was also afraid that if I had left there would be no one to watch them. They trashed our cabin and left me to clean up after them and they ran around naked when guys got there. They invited college guys that were visiting from another state up to our cabin. I was so afraid of what could happen to us. I went outside for 2 minutes and when I came back all of them were already in rooms. One of them was my best friend. I was so outraged that I literally was going to go in there and jerk her out of that room. I got kicked out of my room and had to sleep on the floor. We did NOTHING because all they did was drink. The first night they got drunk I was in the other room and I heard (my best friend) basically say that the only reason I was there was so that they could have somebody to take care of them. They only invited me for that reason and so that they could get my part of the money to make it cheaper for them. I told them I wanted to go home and they got so mad at me and wouldn’t speak to me. I called my guy best friend that i’ve been writing about to tell him how afraid I was because I had no one else to talk to. It turned out that the girl that he’s “in love” with was camping down the road from us too and all he cared about was her. He wanted me to “spy” on her and tell me everything she was doing. I found out the day after that he has another girlfriend and she has a boyfriend but they’re about to get together! Anyways, he was the only person I had left and I was on the verge of tears talking to him about everything and he didn’t even care as long as “his girl” wasn’t doing anything bad. I never noticed it before but EVERYTIME we talk he brings her up and he wants me to give him info on her. I realized that he’s using me to get to her! I hung up on him and he tried to call me back but I wouldn’t answer. I saw him when we got back and he wouldn’t even look at me. I feel so stupid for not finding this out sooner. I feel betrayed and used. . .
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Nice bunch of “friends” you got there. Just a hint if people don’t care about what you think about something then usually they are acqaintances rather than friends. In relation to your male “friend” he is doing something known as covering all bases in case in any other relationship should fail (not a particularly nice thing to do). Any way in relation to your friends all together i would say keep a low profile see if any of them seek you out. If they don’t maybe for the better, then seek out some other company also you’ll be at college soon where you might meet some great people to make up for the S*** your getting just now.
midian wrote:
Nice bunch of “friends” you got there. Just a hint if people don’t care about what you think about something then usually they are acqaintances rather than friends. In relation to your male “friend” he is doing something known as covering all bases in case in any other relationship should fail (not a particularly nice thing to do). Any way in relation to your friends all together i would say keep a low profile see if any of them seek you out. If they don’t maybe for the better, then seek out some other company also you’ll be at college soon where you might meet some great people to make up for the S*** your getting just now.
Yeah I know that when I go to college i’ll probably never see any of them again and i’ll make new friends. My two best friends really surprised me though. I guess I know what they both prefer over me now.
penguin.= wrote:
]wow thats a long stori.but what exacly do you need help with?
Just ranting :)
That sucks. But you are bigger person than they are, and the only thing you should do is walk away. Leave all of that behind- all those so called “friends”, who are actually not even close to that! I’ve been through stuff like that myself- rejection and betray from my “friends’” side, but you know what? I’m over it. I see those people from time to time, they are still stuck into their shallow lives, and among their selves I bet they can’t stand each other. I just walked away. And you should too. I know it is hard, being betrayed all the time; when you think that they consider you friend, but the only thing they are doing is making it better for themselves. You are more than that, and there are people in this world who will consider you worthy for who you are, who will not try to derive the benefits just for their selves. You just have to be yourself and not let anyone walk over you!
I hope you’ll get out of that crappy situation as soon as possible, and find what you really deserve- real friendship and love! You can do it! (:
Hmm, is this your best friend that you told him how you feel?
Im sorry “/
that really is f**ked up to do so.
Well if your friends that you went camping with are really doing that, then their not your real friends. no friend should do that to the other, it’s a good thing that you were the responsible one at the time and stayed strong about it.
people can be shady and lie about alot of things. you just have to watch out and be careful
BoA wrote:
That sucks. But you are bigger person than they are, and the only thing you should do is walk away. Leave all of that behind- all those so called “friends”, who are actually not even close to that! I’ve been through stuff like that myself- rejection and betray from my “friends’” side, but you know what? I’m over it. I see those people from time to time, they are still stuck into their shallow lives, and among their selves I bet they can’t stand each other. I just walked away. And you should too. I know it is hard, being betrayed all the time; when you think that they consider you friend, but the only thing they are doing is making it better for themselves. You are more than that, and there are people in this world who will consider you worthy for who you are, who will not try to derive the benefits just for their selves. You just have to be yourself and not let anyone walk over you!
I hope you’ll get out of that crappy situation as soon as possible, and find what you really deserve- real friendship and love! You can do it! (:
Thank you! I completely agree. I plan to walk away. I’m really nervous about going back to school though. . . I don’t know what will happen.
xxrpsnickersx wrote:
Hmm, is this your best friend that you told him how you feel?
Im sorry “/
that really is f**ked up to do so.
Well if your friends that you went camping with are really doing that, then their not your real friends. no friend should do that to the other, it’s a good thing that you were the responsible one at the time and stayed strong about it.
people can be shady and lie about alot of things. you just have to watch out and be careful
Yeah it sucks :( I agree. I’ve went to school with these people for 13 years! All that time you’d think i’d know who they really are. . . it’s crazy! From my understanding they do this all the time but hide it from me. It’s sad :( I’m so afraid that one day they’ll get themselves in a bad situation and won’t have anyone like me to be there to help them.
Then they will finally learn when they have to clean up their own mess.
If they were to get themselves in a bad situation, don’t yourself to fault or some sort.
They would have brought it upon themselves and realized they lost a good friend like you. That is messed up what they did to you, especially after you’ve known them for so long. But like people say, everything happens for a reason. And maybe this just shows that you should meet new people instead of sticking with the old, you know? Because your old friends know how you are, and they’ll take advantage of you in any way because they know.
xxrpsnickersx wrote:
If they were to get themselves in a bad situation, don’t yourself to fault or some sort.
They would have brought it upon themselves and realized they lost a good friend like you. That is messed up what they did to you, especially after you’ve known them for so long. But like people say, everything happens for a reason. And maybe this just shows that you should meet new people instead of sticking with the old, you know? Because your old friends know how you are, and they’ll take advantage of you in any way because they know.
I agree with that. I think everything happens for a reason too, and maybe this happened to show me that they’re not my friends like I thought they were.
Exactly, i somewhat had to go through something like that. So i know the situation. There used to be lots of times when i was the one being left out. And in our group, we always came in packs of two. It’s wierd, but if we split up, say to go get lunch, then we’d divide up and go. But at a time, there used to be an odd number and i ended up being the one to get left out. Don’t worry, your a senior so they’ll be out of your hair in just a few more weeks:)
Btw, do you have an aim or myspace?
just curious
I can’t wait! Just 6 more weeks to go :) I don’t :( I never got around to it, but if I ever make one i’ll let you know :)
Mann, then i’ll be a sophmore!
time passes pretty fast
alright:)
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oh man!
l0l
but i think next year will be better
I hope it will. I met a few people yesterday that i’ll be going to school with in the fall. We had so much fun together. I feel a lot better now about going to college :)
ScarofLo18 wrote:
I hope it will. I met a few people yesterday that i’ll be going to school with in the fall. We had so much fun together. I feel a lot better now about going to college :)
That’s it! I’m so glad you’re having fun!
You’ll do it just fine (:
BoA wrote:
ScarofLo18 wrote:
I hope it will. I met a few people yesterday that i’ll be going to school with in the fall. We had so much fun together. I feel a lot better now about going to college :)That’s it! I’m so glad you’re having fun!
You’ll do it just fine (:
Thanks :)
look, this is high school. its supposed to be dramatic and it is. you just need to be above it all. don’t bite at these things because you’re better than this. you don’t need anyone, you got yourself and all you can do is do what is best for you. sounds like they gave you a real headache, and getting confused is no fun. instead of talking to kids your own age, talk to the teachers. they all went through these same things.
lol :-) happy to help. My name is Kyle
ScarofLo18 wrote:
I hope it will. I met a few people yesterday that i’ll be going to school with in the fall. We had so much fun together. I feel a lot better now about going to college :)
sounds good to hear:)
well sometimes i wish i was going to a different school.
my high school has sooo many fake people and drama
there’s quite a few fights a week
l0l
it really is!
why care about such people? just live your own life, maybe that’ll attract people who’d want to be your real friends.
no, i have real friends
there are just alott of fake ones that i avoid
haha, i think you got a little mixed
yeah, sadly to say
No, I understand.
My computer crashed so I’ll try to get on through my itouch.
How have you been?
I’m sorry :(
I’ve been great! How are you?
I haven’t talked to my guy friend in a month :(
Id think he’s using you, he just really likes her. My friends sometimes get mad when I mention the guy I like a lot. You get carried away. Try to get your old friends back. Explain to them what happened. I’m sure they’ll understand. If they dont, find new friends.
i know this was a while ago but i know how this feels. it happens a lot. currently it is happening to me and i’m just trying to stay focus on my school and hope things calm down and start making sense. i’m assuming your in college now so this is the perfect time to start fresh and rebuild better friendships. wish you all the best
Thank you so much :)
Yeah i’m in college now and I don’t speak to any of those people anymore except for that guy. I go to church with him now and he’s sending me mixed signals. It breaks my heart :( but i’m meeting a lot of new people at school and I have a whole new group of friends. We never hang out or talk on the phone or anything but it’s nice to have someone to talk to every once in awhile.
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