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ChavyWasabi

Why is it so hard to ask for help?

It’s really dificult for me to actually open up!

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Haro 3 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (4 minutes after post)

Ah, I have the same problem.
But what’s wrong? Tell me everything and I will try to help :D

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Anonymous #
11 months, 1 week ago (4 minutes after post)

I have the same problem, i don’t really open up to anyone. I have a deep seeded fear of failure and rejection. At times i try to open up and have found the courage to see my doctor about anti-depressants that i now take. Even now its still hard to open up though.

Haro 3 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

The key thing for me is to remember that you don’t have to open up to everyone.
Just open up to a few people, it definitely makes you feel better that having no one to talk to.

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ChavyWasabi 3 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (12 minutes after post)

I do open up from time to time. Well, I don’t believe in failure (it’s a cultural fiction in my opinion) but I do fear rejection form time to time. This really stupid thing happend to me today, it’s really complex… are you guys up to reading it?

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An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (13 minutes after post)

Normal thing. People can’t get you if your clamped up your feelings.

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Grim_Hardcastle 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (13 minutes after post)

A lot of people is currently going through the troubles of opening up. It`s kinda frightening to leave oneself vulnerable to the world. Just take small steps and i`m shure you`ll be fine. This site is a great non-personal site to open up. A lot of people share similar probs and it`s easy to get help and understanding.

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sum 6 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (15 minutes after post)

People often dont ask for help out of fear of being judged but you shouldnt worry people arent as bad as you think they are

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Genesis721 11 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (21 minutes after post)

People who have nothing to hide, hide nothing. Is it really the problem of opening up to people or is it the problem that they will discover who you really are?

Haro 3 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (37 minutes after post)

ChavyWasabi wrote:
I do open up from time to time. Well, I don’t believe in failure (it’s a cultural fiction in my opinion) but I do fear rejection form time to time. This really stupid thing happend to me today, it’s really complex… are you guys up to reading it?

Fearing rejection is normal.. or at least it is normal to me.
I will read it, go ahead and type it.

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An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (37 minutes after post)

Maybe it’s hard to ask for help, because you already know what you need…
Maybe it’s a hard task in front of you and you’re just stalling…

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Stress007 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (8 hours, 8 minutes after post)

Because ppl. like it when they are in control because
they can help!!! haha.. idk, i don’t have that problem really :O

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Kanabi 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (2 weeks, 6 days after post)

People don’t like to ask for help because of thier ego. It tells them that they dont need to get help, they can do it themselves. But you do need help sometimes, so when you feel like you cant ask for help, you should push yourself to.

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ChavyWasabi 3 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (2 weeks, 6 days after post)

Kanabi wrote:
People don’t like to ask for help because of thier ego. It tells them that they dont need to get help, they can do it themselves. But you do need help sometimes, so when you feel like you cant ask for help, you should push yourself to.

¿?… I’m not sure if this is true, atleast in my case, but I’ll try to think about it…

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