Love help: I think I’m in love with an older woman… - Help.com

Love is not an idea, or just a feeling. Love is an action word. The question here is how far do you both want to take this, and how does she feel about you? Love is not for the weak at heart; it requires awareness and courage.

Age is just a number, but it depend on what you want in a relationship, when you want it, and how your going to make it happen. An older person should never be seen as a mother or father figure, this is a grave mistake. Nor should the older person play into this.

Actually, not too long ago I meet and fell in love with a younger man. The age difference is about the same as you, but he is older and so am I. When we meet, the man I was with, but not married to had basically stopped being there for me on so many levels. We lived together. I found the courage to tell that person I was no longer in love with him.

I was so happy about this young man, and I told him exactly how I felt about him.

Fortunately for you, your love interest is not involved with someone.

We had to keep our relationship between us two because the relationship was evolving. Unfortunately, he wanted me to pick up and leave where I have lived
for many years to Alabama… I’m a producer. My is current work is predicated on staying where I am for the time being. He’s still in college, staying with his mother, and working. None of this is really a problem for me, but after he shared our connect with his mother, things began to go south of the boarder.

I needed time to re-arrange my living situation before embarking on this new relationship. I didn’t want to put our relationship under too much pressure. Need less to say his mother and possibly his friends have decided for him.

He’s such a wonderful young man I want nothing more than for him to be happy.
Maybe his friends and family are right according to the way they see things.
But I still love him, and I always will. He was the smartest, sweetest, finest, and the sexiest man I have ever met, and I’m 20 years older than him.

He did have a few misconceptions about being with an older woman and a younger one. I had to remind him that I was in better shape than most woman his age, I am wiser, prosperous, and sexy. That’s my short list of advantages he had with me, but he missed them. He still thinks I’m lying about my age.

With that said… Nothing ventured, nothing gain. If it’s true love you will know this in your heart, but it’s a 2 way street.

Secretly, the young man I mentioned will remember me for the rest of his life.
So love doesn’t just go away because people talk you out of it. Make your own decision, and take your time young man. The woman you love is very lucky to have your attention, and obviously she is very special too have yours.

snowsnoop1 wrote:
She’s not married.

And I’m serious, I really think I love her.

I’m 39 and im dating a 24 year old guy for more then a year. We are both college grads, and we have similar likes and have a great time. He likes older women, and I never really thought about a much younger guy, but since we get along well and we like similar music, and shows,, and have several other thigs in common etc.. We don’t really consider the age issue.

BUT, if you don’t have an open-mind, and you are more concerned with what people might think, other then doing what makes you happy, then you might have issues dealing with it. Age is a number, here in the USA, we focus on age, in Europe, it’s not that way.

If she feels the same with you, then just have fun, there’s no guarantee with any relationship, young or older, so they can all be consideed a crap shoot, if the chemestry is there, it should be fine, unless you get hung in a numbers game, you’ll never nget off the ground

im 18 how do i get me a woman like that????

i have the exact same problem, although im 17 and shes 37..
and she has a kid.
But i really love her