How to tell someone you’re not interested who REALLY thinks you are?

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How to tell someone you’re not interested who REALLY thinks you are?

I started talking to this guy, thinking friendship (He’s too old for me, and has a completely different lifestyle) Anyways, He started asking me to do things and such- and I went. I kind of knew he was interested in me (which is why I now feel guilty). Now he seems to pine away for me. I am NOT interested… since he started thinking we really had a chance I have stopped going places with him- and pretty directly told him I’m not interested. However, he didn’t seem to catch that.

I can’t be subtle, he is fairly certain that I’m interested. But I don’t want to be mean (He is a very unstable person- which is one of the MAJOR reasons I’m not interested). He just lost his grandpa, and was already “woe is me” before that. I don’t want to make him flip out.

What is a really nice way to say I’m not interested?

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littlenick 133 #
An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 2 weeks ago (1 minute after post)

“I think you’re a really nice guy but I don’t see MYSELF with you being a couple. I have other plans and other people in mind. Sorry!” Smile and leave. (End of Scene)

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kingj2 1 #
Miami, FL, US | 7 months, 2 weeks ago (2 minutes after post)

Just tell him look your great and all but I’m not interested in you the way you are interested in me. It’s not fair that this continues on because their might be someone for you, and you will completely miss it because of me.

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linuxya 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 2 weeks ago (21 minutes after post)

Emphasize that you are not compatible. Then it’s not about him or you. I’ve used it. I’ve had it used on me. I like it.

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lostinatoodarkpark 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 2 weeks ago (36 minutes after post)

yea, not compatible that seems k

or you could say that you have a boyfriend now or even better that you are a lesbian? hows that? LOL

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Not Me 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 57 minutes after post)

lostinatoodarkpark wrote:
yea, not compatible that seems k

or you could say that you have a boyfriend now or even better that you are a lesbian? hows that? LOL

Ha ha ha, Ironically….

One of the issues I’m dealing with it now is I have a major potential boyfriend…

and Ironically- Everyone knows my roommate is secretly my lesbian lover.

lostinatoodarkpark 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 2 weeks ago (2 hours, 7 minutes after post)

:P yeah i got mad mind reading skills :P

make the major potential boyfriend your boyfriend ;-)

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Not Me 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 2 weeks ago (2 hours, 30 minutes after post)

Well that’s the plan ;-)

Anonymous #
7 months, 2 weeks ago (11 hours, 42 minutes after post)

just keep in mind he is older and probably wise and could be playing u. Be straight up if he doesn’t gt it ditch him as a friend

Not Me 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 2 weeks ago (22 hours, 52 minutes after post)

Well he definitely isn’t wiser in this situation. He hasn’t had any more experience than I have… but he is quite desperate… which is just that much worse.

ameliaearthlin 17 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 2 weeks ago (1 day, 4 hours after post)

Not Me wrote:
Well he definitely isn’t wiser in this situation. He hasn’t had any more experience than I have… but he is quite desperate… which is just that much worse.

ummm still be careful as, when some guys wants something they will say anything.
Just say the truth..
You really enjoy his company but you are not able to be more than a friend to him.

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