depression help: Most of the time I get really negative thoughts ( about how my girlfriend might cheat on me or about how ridiculously hard it is for me to study).

Canoso

Most of the time I get really negative thoughts ( about how my girlfriend might cheat on me or about how ridiculously hard it is for me to study).

I keep thinking and thinking about these thoughts, like if they were true(and are they?) This makes me feel depressed. I often go to sleep at 3am because I can’t put myself to sleep and I truly believe that this contributes to what I believe are symptoms of “depression”. I say this because I don’t believe I am actually depressed, just kind of …alone. This feeling makes things harder and I just wish to know any tips or ideas that could help me out…..I’m flexible but I don’t believe in any kind of god, so please don’t suggest any. ( I do respect them but I do not believe in them, so please respect my ideas as well. )

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Max_in d quest 0 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

all this is because
1st u have insecurity ridden all over u,indicating u have lack of self esteem,self confidence…u have actually got nothing inside u,complete vacant,no talent,knowledge,benovelance,humanity,divinity etc etc dat makes a man…
2nd u ve got a lot of precious time 2 waste,u r not dedicated or determined abt anything in ur life,u r not career conscious,neither r u good at academics or sports,dere is nothing dat can keep u holded…
3rd u lack communication,good friends etc to discuss ur inner self and soul

i think,u better start dreaming realistic,be cautious of d competetive world around u.think abt ur future plans and ventures,dese will boost confidence in u and improve ur positive vibrations…..

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Canoso 6 #
London, ON, CA | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (22 minutes after post)

Well, of all you have said, you certainly got one thing right..I do not have anyone to communicate or discuss “my inner self and soul”. The rest, not so sure about it.

Roltz [#] 10 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (33 minutes after post)

I dunno, I feel the exact same most days… I’m a psych student, I do loads of depression tests and stuff in college and I often have to lie about the answers for fear of people throwing me into a padded room… (Depressed people often know that they’re depressed… so rule that one out..) I have the girlfriend cheating fear too.. It’s a legitimate fear! everyone’s afraid of being cheated on, but If you love her and she loves you, you’ve nothing to worry about…

I’ve no idea what MAX is on about… I guess we’re not men by his standards… oh no… I’m going to dig me a dying hole… maybe the low self esteem i understand but em, the other stuff??

I usually can’t sleep unless someone’s holding me (usually my girlfriend but once i was really sick and my mam held me and rubbed my hair for ages.. don’t judge me!) because i’m constantly making up “what if” theories… it sucks… I hate it…

Alot of my friends see me as a confident and secure person and probably have no idea about what i think or what i’m thinking..

I make plans… think of the future… all that jazz…

YOUR NOT ALONE… remember that.. hopefully that’s some reassurance!

As for tips… try find and write down all the things your good at, ALL THEM.. if you can balance a spoon on your nose, write it down.. it might be hard to start off.. but you’ll get loads… you don’t have to show anyone either so BE HONEST!
try put your days into some form of routine.. like, Wake up, get a shower, brush teeth, get a coffee, etc etc…

Let me know how it goes..

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Anonymous #
7 months, 3 weeks ago (36 minutes after post)

lol, ignore the moron who says you have no talent etc. how the hell does he know?! i kinda understand how you feel, i feel it too..atleast you have a gf, i ruin the chance of boyfriends because negativity distracts me.

Canoso 6 #
London, ON, CA | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (2 hours, 3 minutes after post)

Ah I hear you Roltz. My surroundings also think I’m a secure confident person, but my real inside is a mess. I also do something close to your “what if” theories. Anyways, I will work on the routine part. And I will try my best to do write the things I’m good at..

@Anonymous: I’ll take your advice, moron ignored.

Roltz [#] 10 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (2 hours, 11 minutes after post)

May our surroundings never know!

take it easy man…

I hope it helps

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 2 weeks ago (1 week after post)

I’m no expert, but I believe all this dwelling on various negative things (most of which probably aren’t even real) is called ‘rumination’, and, yes, it is something that comes with depression. I found this site a couple of weeks ago and it really got me to thinking about the way I think:
http://www.clinical-depression.co.uk/…

Just read through the pages. This does seem to be a company that is selling some sort of service, but you can just forget about that and read the pages.

Also start googling Aaron T. Beck, who seems to be a prominent thinker in treating clinical depression and has written many books, some of which can be viewed at least in part on Google books (i.e. free information). You should also google terms like ‘rumination’ and ‘depressogenic assumptions’ and ‘depressogenic attributional style’.

You’re not the first person to have these thoughts, I assure you. Arming yourself with information about this phenomenon will go a long way in helping you manage your negative thoughts and ultimately change the way you think. Again, I’m no doctor, but I was googling these things a couple of weeks ago, and since I’ve stumbled upon this info, life has been better.

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xrlwilson #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (3 months, 2 weeks after post)

Hey Canso this may be a late reply but i just googled ‘i keep having negative thoughts alot’ and this link came up.

I really want to know if you have tried anything which has helped you?

I’m a 24 f who has done a degree and just completed my PGCE in primary teaching and start a job in september. I constantly have negative thoughts, either about my bf cheating on me and I make up all kinds of situations, even to the point I have planned what I will do if we split up and how to cope with this (although alot of this is very far fetched) It’s really getting me down and I don’t want to destroy my relationship.

I also spend alot of my time daydreaming (e.g. when i’m alone driving, before I go to sleep) which is causing me also to find it difficult to sleep (they are always negative day dreams.)

Whether i’m thinking about my bf cheating or how I wish i looked differnt, or how I hate certain things about myspef it’s all negative thoughts!

Im a very confident person and all my friends think this, i’m not quiet or shy. I need some help and advice!!

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Canoso 6 #
London, ON, CA | 4 months, 1 week ago (3 months, 2 weeks after post)

Just between you and me, ahem…I haven’t quite found a solution to this. I am still stuck on the constant day-dreaming (a lot of it before I go to sleep as well)..It’s a rather ridiculous similar situation to yours (I also make up non-real but close to reality situations like you do). I am quite confident of myself (except when I mess up at something and start wiping my self-psychologically). Awee…be on the look-out tell me if you find something, I will try to do the same..

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An Unknown Location | 2 weeks, 5 days ago (7 months after post)

i am also get mendal depressed so please give me some solution.day by day depressed things r killing when i am studing second year i was in phisiology class on 2006 on that time i was simply sitted in my class one person is scolded that not only first time many times that person scolded me many times when i was in flat also scolded me many times see these thing and all crushing my heart crushed even i vomitted many times.regarding thinking about these.i cant hers after these are not sentences this is my tears with my blood.so please give me heaven life sometimes i wont believe gods.everything not depends on it.many tiomes i cried see you again………………..

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