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hey i have a problem with my boyfreind.

well he doesnt seem to like me anymore…. he never makes any effort and he was kinda ok after school and that, we talk about random stuff but he never tells me about his problems so i don’t really want to tell him about mine …and also lately he stopped talking to me at school at all because apparently he’s really tired so when he’s at break or lunch he usually just leans on me and doesnt bother with convorsations :( im scared that im too boring for him :( what should i do ??

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knight_edg offline Verified User (7 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (5 minutes after post)

The best thing to do would be to talk. Ask him why he’s tired and see if there is anything you can do to help.
Maybe he feels the same; that because you dotn share your problems he is unable to share his. Tell him your concerns. Dont worry about them, just express them to him, and see what he says.

If soemthing is wrong he will tell you. And then you will know for good or for bad.

I doubt he thinks your boring. He may just have things on his mind. Afterall, he engaged in a relationship with you. SO at one point you must have been the most interesting person out there to him.

Just talk. Ring him or meet, and tell him how you feel. You might be suprised, he might say he was thinking the same thing.

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Sayuri_is_my_geisha_ edited this post 7 months, 1 week ago. Read the previous text »

heya i have a problem wiv my bf. well he doesnt seem to lyke me anymore…. he neva makes any effort nd his kinda okaii after skl nd tht, we tlk about random stuff bt he neva tells me about his problems so i dnt reli wanna tell him about mine …nd also lately he stopped tlking to me at skl at all cos apparently hes reli tired so he at break or lunch he usually jst leans on me nd doesnt bother wiv convo:( ima scared tht ima too boring for him :( wot shall i do ??

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linuxya offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (8 minutes after post)

If one person in a relationship starts to have trouble and the other person backs away, the relationship crumbles.

If all you talk about is random stuff, you’re not building any kind of trust. People build trust by disclosing things about themselves which encourages the other person to disclose the same kind of thing back.

For men, being really tired usually means something is wrong and they don’t know how to express it.

He may be feeling the exact same thing you are.

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (9 minutes after post)

thats what boyfreinds and girlfreinds are for… snuggling and Helping each other…

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (20 minutes after post)

da thing is i tried tlking to him bt he jst denies everything nd says everything is fine …also i found out tht hes apatic only when hes around me :(
i reli feel lyke crap atm
mayby hed b betta off wivout me

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theresape offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
Waltham, MA, US | 7 months, 1 week ago (25 minutes after post)

Also, try suggesting something new and interesting to do after school and on dates. Learn something together, or explore a new area together, or do some volunteer work together. Freshen things up.

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linuxya offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (32 minutes after post)

Tell him how his actions are making you feel.

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