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Hello, I am feeling like I am sinking in quicksand.

I am 35 years old and I have a five year old daughter. I am in a long term (10 yr) relationship. He has two boys allready. One of these I have raised as my own since he was ten. I have had to be the disciplinarian, the caretaker, the maid, the confidant, financial support …. everything. We have a typical mother/son relationship. However, now he is 19 and doesn’t want to do anything except use this house as a hotel and I am the maid service. I realize this is his age. The oldest son, who is now 24, is now moving back in with us. I have a good relationship with him, but the stress of the unknown is keeping me on edge. I am trying to get out of being everyone’s maid. It is allready a battle. Idon’t want another one. My significant other is very psassive aggressive. He just lets everything go,go,go until he wants his way on something, then uses guilt to motivate his position. We are in debt. We don’t owe that much total, but monthly it has become a struggle. I am in school for nursing and it is overwhelming. Not school, just the whole situation. I am scared that I am not going to make it. I feel like leaving my husband. I feel like dropping out of school to go to work. Right now I just go to school. My daughter is in kindergarten and she gets out at two o’clock, so I wait, then pick her up when I finish mine at 12. I used to volunteer in that hour or two, but I don’t even feel like doing that anymore. I just mainly want to sleep. I am not lazy, actually quite the opposite, but here lately I think I just want the escape. I feel like they are all driving me crazy. I have no boundaries.

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (4 minutes after post)

I am not contemplating suicide, I just feel like I have noone to talk to about these things, I guess. I know it all looks better in the a.m. I just have gotten here lately to the point that it seems nothing ever let’s up. There is no breathing room.

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (4 hours, 50 minutes after post)

I cannot talk right now, but I would like you to know that you must stand strong, above all else. I think your largest problem is the debt. Find some way to get out of debt, and try to show your son the stress he puts you through. I think these things are your main issues. Get those two done, and you and your partner will be much happier. Regardless of whether or not thoser goals are reached, you need to relax. Take a walk on a sunny day by yourself. Sit under a tree with nothing to do but observe your senses. You will be fine. Strong like bull. Good luck.

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