I walked out on my wife last night after an argument. - Help.com

Ong hun… First off So u know what u did was wrong? did u ask god For forgiveness and Did u ask her forgiveness??

I know But atleast u wil be right in his Eyes and thats a start…
As for you sit her down get the boys out of the house and discuss it like two adults no cussin no witchin none of that and tell her u care what she thinks and u want to be a good husband thats why u told her….

You really have to think about WHY you left in the first place.
If you’re not happy, and you don’t feel the same way about her, then you can’t just go back on a guilt trip and keep living the lie that you are happy. Your life is too short to live in guilt and always be thinking ‘What would have happened if I did leave?’ or ‘What could I be doing now?’
If you come to the conclusion that you don’t want to leave, and that you want to stay with your kids and your wife, then you need to talk to her on her own about it. I’d suggest a neutral place, get a babysitter to look after the kids and go to somewhere where you can talk uninterrupted, but not completely isolated, so that you can’t just scream at each other.
What kind of person is your wife? Do you know how she reacts to cheaters? I would say the truth ALWAYS wins out in the end, and if you decide to stay with her, you’ll always feel guilty for it if you don’t tell her about it. If you think she’ll leave you for it, tell her how you’re feeling in your relationship with her - explain your feelings, if you’re feeling isolated or under-valued or unhappy. The key with situations like this is to talk about what is going on. If you don’t feel up to going back home just yet, then stay somewhere else. Email/call her and talk things through. Meet up regularly if you want to stay away. But know that you’ll need to make a decision soon, whatever it is, because you can’t stay away from your kids and your home forever.

You made a mistake.

Get yourself the book “When Good Men Behave Badly”. I suspect it will help you understand a lot of how you think, feel and act. This kind of thing happens after a looooooooong period of problems.

What you need to realize is there’s no point in applying morality or judging yourself. You acted in a certain way because certain problems existed and you didn’t have the understanding and coping skills to deal with them.

So get those skills. Start with the book. It’s a good one.

Looking at the big picture here you have two options. 1. Tell her. 2. Don’t tell her. Neither option is an easy one and it depends on the type of person you are and your relationship.

Option 1 - Tell Her. Two things can happen here. Either way I am guessing she is going to be livid. Once she calms down and evaluates her options (which you need to give her time to do…don’t demand decisions from her)she could decide to end things OR she might see that there are deeper issues here and commit to working on them and possibly moving forward. I understand that you were mad and weren’t sure how to express your feelings, but your actions broke a major bond in marriage…TRUST. If she can’t trust you, it might be difficult to move past this. If she can trust you, there is hope there for addressing your problems and moving in a positive direction. You have spoken out with your actions and you have left her with some big choices to make. With that being said, I’m not saying that you don’t have choices, but you gave up some leverage with your actions.

Option 2 - Don’t tell her. I am not an advocate of this option. If you truly feel that this one incident was a completely isolated one and you don’t want to act out in this way again…Some people might say that they can reconcile the situation with themselves and move forward. Like I said…not a great option and not an easy one. Living with the guilt on your own could be worse than telling her about your mistake. Either way…if you tell her or if you don’t…trust has been broken and needs to be repaired.

Fair warning…women are smart and we have a sixth sense when it comes to this stuff. I can say that long term she would probably prefer finding out from you rather than finding out from another source.

Like I said…not telling you what to do one way or the other. As other posts have mentioned, there are obviously deeper issues in your relationship. Whether or not you decide to share your slip-up…you still have things to address if you want this marriage to work. Be patient, be understanding, give her time, and be prepared. A question you might want to ask yourself is “Do I even want to be in this relationship?”

All of the above, plus get an HIV test before touching her again.

1st of all do not tell her anything, ever,ever, ever,!!!you will only destroy her feelings for you,keep it to yourself. go to a priest or other cleregy that you don’t know in another town/city and seriously ask for forgivness. don’t see a physchiatrist it will then be permantly recorded in your name and on your insurance. go home and be good to your family and don’t be suspecious!!! good luck.