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I was emotionally abused by my Mom according to my therapist.

Although we have a rocky relationship we are still close and I’m finding it difficult to accept this but I also can’t help think the things she has done and said to me. Sometimes, when I’m having bad days they just keep replaying in my head and I can’t understand what I did to deserve it. I’m also getting so worn out by everything too.

I’m still at an age where I live with her and I can’t move out anytime soon but I just want to leave. Therapy just isn’t working, and I’m just sinking. This isn’t all to do with my Mom, but I think that was just the icing on the cake. Leave for a whole new country, a whole new life. I just want to start new. I know this is easier said than done, so I’m wondering if anyone has any ways of coping or any advice on what I can do next…

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Morally Ambiguous JD offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 101 #
An Undisclosed Location | 7 months ago (3 minutes after post)

sound like your therapist has hit a nerve, which means he/she now has something to work with. sounds like he/she is right about it too. so keep going to your therapist. Then when your therapist has done his/her job start thinking about where you want to be in 5 years time then get to work.

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An Unknown Location | 7 months ago (3 minutes after post)

hmmm… i’m sorry but when things got bad with me and my mom I moved right the hell out and started a new life…. and I moved back to canada and started a whole new life…

not saying thats why you should do but i tured out fine

have you talked to your mother about this? cause maybe in fact she did abuse you and you just don’t want to accept it that happens alot, my friend had a hard time dealing with it himself when it came to his fathers abuse until all of a suden one day he started remembering his past and came to terms with it

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An Unknown Location | 7 months ago (4 minutes after post)

Hi

I have similar feelings to you.
My community psychiatric nurse (cpn) and psychiatrist both say i was emotionally abused by my parents and that i need to talk about it with them, but i love my mum and after a horrid past, we all get on now. I live miles away from my mum now, but when i do see her, we get on, and i cant talk about anything with her, i dont want to cause anymore damage.

sorry i don’t have an answer, but, just know there are people in the same situation that you can talk to, maybe that might help?

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Time Traveller offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Undisclosed Location | 7 months ago (1 hour, 55 minutes after post)

I feel the same about my mother and I just try to focus on the positive things she did, but I don’t live near her.

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An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (4 days, 7 hours after post)

i have the same problem. i was just venting to one of my friends. nothing i do is ever good enough for my mom. she always has a reason to be mad at me. no matter what it is. the tiniest thing makes her mad at me. and i am going down. i go to a therapist and that doesnt work for me. i always need to get out of the house but my mom doesnt let me do anything becasue im always grounded. i dont know what the hell to do.

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