I’m scared for my future.
I’m becoming a recluse, but I’m not sure how I feel about it. I have no job, and I’m scared of getting one. I am 27. I’m married, and my husband is my only friend, but he feels like he’s being pushed away now too. I don’t want to lose him, but I guess I like to distance myself from people. It’s not that I don’t care about them, but interacting with others on a daily basis is painful. If my marriage fails, I’ll have to move in with one of my parents (doesn’t matter which). I don’t have any hobbies. Nothing interests me. I think I’ve always been this way. I end up quitting everything I start. I’ve been through therapy for depression, but it never seems to help, and every time I go on medication, I try to kill myself. Lately, I can’t find anything to do that I enjoy. I don’t even like watching movies anymore. Even if I manage to stay awake through one, I don’t remember it once it’s over. I don’t know how to get motivated to do stuff. Other people have jobs and hobbies and friends, and everything seems so difficult for me. I’d literally rather just stare at the wall all day than try to do those things. I pray and I feel nothing. What should I do?
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You’ve got serious depression issues. I would continue to work with doctors to find a medical solution. But I would also recommend one of two things. This will be hard since you tend to quit on things be seriously try to do one of these two options.
1) Start volunteering someplace that involves outdoor work or animals. Be a volunteer at a zoo or park for example. Being out in nature or around animals can be amazingly healing.
2) As much as you need help for yourself, try to help others. Everyone has advice and perspective to share. So don’t think you’ll be bad at it. Volunteer someplace where you can help people or kids. It will help draw you out of your personal funk. At a minimum just find a website like Help.com or a forum you like and start helping people with advice. It will help make you feel better.
you need to focus on what’s happening now.
I will pray for you and dont give up on prayer always pray in jesus name continue to do therapy talking in my experience is alot more helpful try making someone elses day do something good for someone else for me feeling wanted and needed is very soothing GOD BLESS YOU
I am in a similar boat with you. Please don’t feel alone. I am also 27 and married. I am in school but am scared to death of getting a job and what the future will bring… often my worries make me close off from people and push them away-even my husband which hurts my heart. I am always worried about what people think about me and if I’m living up to others expectations instead of my own.. I don’t even know what my own expectations are!
I worry because I am so sensitive and wear my heart on my sleeve that I will not find a good job but I know logically that this isn’t true.
I do know however that God has plans for me even if I cannot see them or know them at the moment. When I worry I give Him my worries and take things one day at a time.
You are not alone and nothing is worth giving up your life over (((((((hugs))))))))
I am finding a therapist to help me with my confidence issues and I know you can help yourself too.
please see a doctor right away
no one deserves to feel this way
He/she can get you medication and/or the therapy you need. There is no shame in it… You deserve to enjoy your life and sometimes hormones stop that from happening.. Take back your life from depression and see someone now. You are worth it. God has big plans for you!
You need to take things one day at a time. Put a smile on your face, it isn’t that bad. I totally agree that it is important to help others. You will start gaining a lot more confidence. Make sure you pray daily and trust me, it will get better. Don’t let this take over your life, it is not worth it.
Hi I am also the same, not to the extent of wanting to kill myself, but I have fisnished uni and am scared for what the future has in store for me, I usually cry and think i would rather live no more because what if bad things happen in the future, how will i deal with them… At least you have a husband, I am 23 and all alone, I am scared of getting a job, I don’t know what I really want to do and am scared of starting a job, also what I am most afriad of is my future, and finding a partner, I am really sensistive and wear my heart on my sleeve also, as soon as someone says something bad or even when i come across someone rude at the shops, or people I know i get really upset quickly. I am scared of finding a partner, getting married and scared of my future, I cry sometimes wondering what if things turn out badly, I have no one to talk to and just try to keep everything to my self, I like being with myself, because I have gotten used to it, and prefer to be at home by myself than with others because I find some people very materialistic, sometimes when I do go out I have a really good time and wonder why I don’t go out more often, but most of the time I always think what people think of me..it restricts me in having a good time and being free to do what I like..i don’t really go out with my friends, I really dont have any good friends anymore as I have stayed away from them..
all I have is that I think God will bring things to me when the time is right, I try to have faith in God, but sometimes its really hard. I know where you are coming from, and I wish you all the best.. (hugs)
I have a friend who went through something similar to that. She has experienced depression and has tried to kill herself. I, too, am terrified about my future. I don’t like to be around people, I’m afraid I’ll never find a husband, and I don’t have confidence in myself that I’ll ever be able to achieve the right job for me. The more I’ve tried to figure out why I feel like this, the more I’ve found that it’s my lack of self-worth. I don’t think that I have anything to offer to those around me and am constantly thinking that I’m a burden. And the more I understand this, the more I see that I will never be able to get through life on my own.
I know that I’m a failure at life — I don’t do what is right and I’ll never be perfect. And this has led me, as well as my friend, to God. We both realized that we need more than what people ourselves can offer. God has provided a way out for us through his son, Jesus. God sent Jesus into the earth to live as a human and then be condemned to hell. When Jesus was crucified, all of our sins (EVERY one) was laid onto Him. When He died, he went to hell and beat death by being raised from the dead three days later. If we believe that Jesus is the son of God and that he did pay for our sins, we don’t need to feel like this. If we believe God, then we don’t need to worry because God says “..I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”. (Jeremiah 29:11) We’ve both tried other ways to gain hope and worth. We both found that Jesus is the only way. My prayer is that you’ll give Him a chance. He wants to save you, too.
my case is similar to yours but i never wanted to kill my self. be more religious that will help and also exercise.
I understand each and everything that you are going through.I know my friend how tough day to day life becomes carryibg those feelings. Our heart says something and our intellect says something else. All that is happenig is due to one and only one reason that you do not “love yourself”. We concentrate on others opinion about us and try to please them instead of ourselves. U think others are worthy and you are not. If everyone are so worthy and perfect they all could have become world’s millionaires, which is not true….so stop bothering yourself with all these and start pampering yourself,dress yourself good and do all the things you like to do. If u think that you do not have any interests, try to engage yourself in some construtive work. This helps to boost your confidence like anything.This also increases the sense of worthyness in you and instills hope in you. You will hence never feel helpless. You alone will start finding ways to solve your existing problems. I am blogging at http://spiritualknow.blogspot.com on some good,positive things. Please read that too. Love yourself and enjoy your life…
i also feel the same way most of time, i am highly qualified, currently pusuing my Phd, am also 27 years. my problem is i lack the motivation al the time, and it makes me feel worthless and helpless, i have a rather good job, however everyone at office takes me for granted, nothing i say or do matters to anyone, my boss critises me always and everyone hides important info from me, am always the last one to know about important things going on in the office, it frustrates me like hell. the staff that came after me, got high posts than mine, and i feel like i’ll always be some doormat in this department. my love life is also a mess,a nd i feel so scared and worried that i will never be happy in life.my friends are far, and i dont seem to make good friends at work or varsity, i feel like a victim to everyone everytime, anyone i come close to takes advantage of my kindness and it hurts me like hell, so i decided to be alone most of the time. its funny cos people think im fine and perfect, i dont know what to do about this helpless/worthless feelings i have. someone please help me.
these feelings are worthless…..god had created each and every life with lot of love…each one is near and dear to him..dont feel worthless about yourself…its like questioning his creation….we always complain about things we dont have rather that treasuring what we have…human nature….even i am like that…we always expect more and more…and at the end we are disappointed. Be in love with yourself and see the what difference you can make for yourself and others around you…one more thing…do things that make you feel happy and never bother what people will think about you…treasure every moment of your life…life is a gift…and its time to open your gift…time is never right until you correct it.
hi,read ur post,and i really feel for u,one thing i ve to say is dre is none and will never be anyone like you,so alwaz bear in mind that you are unique in your own way.alwaz be good to people and never relent because your doin it for Gods sake and not dres.above all get closer to GOD He will help u overcome your weakness.
hi dear, how are you now?
I have very similar feelings. I’m 28 years old and I have just recently moved back in with my mom because I was so depressed. I had been in LA on my own since I was 18 and thought I would save myself some stress by moving in with my mom just to save some money in rent and be around someone who lives me. It’s gotten even worse. I have been looking for a job in FL for three months now. I feel like I am busting my butt trying to find something and nothing seems to be working out. I am terrified. I have felt suicidal but I would never follow through because I know how it destroys loved ones. I’ve never felt this low before and I can’t seem to get out if it. I pray often and ask God and my guardian angels to help me, but I just feel deserted. I’m trying to take it one day at a time and trust that God has a plan, but I have no money for food or gas. I’m trying really hard to stay grateful but I’m just scared. I feel like a can’t breath. I really need some help.
I feel the same when I’m alone. When I’m at work the feeling goes away. But, I can’t stand being at work sometimes.
People always pick on me. I try to keep to myself but that doesn’t stop them. They always try to stick their noses in my business.
When I finally get a day off I’m ok for about two days and then the fear kicks in and I get sad. I feel like I’m going crazy.
I feel hopeless and I’m no good.
I know I have to clean my house, do chores but I don’t. I stay in bed and look at eBay. Spending money I shouldn’t or I gamble and I always lose. but I still go and blow money like an idiot.
It’s Vicious cycle. I hate it. I’m anti social. And I have no desire to inte ct with people. I’m also bulimic I have been since I was in the 6th grade.
I’m guess I’m a compulsive disorder, nut case too! I aw beat up by my dad as a kid and my mother hated me too.
I knw all these things that are wrong and I seem to get worse I get older. I try to stop it but I can’t.
I wish some times I would go to sleep for ever.
I think I know he you feel. I don’t knw what you should do. I always say to myself why am I here? What is the point? I just exist for nothing.
I dd get a dog and he makes me happy. I keep pictures of my dog in my phone and when I feel the walls closing in I look at photos and it helps me forget for a short while.. But I always seem to binge and purge or go gamble or buy crap on eBay regardless.
I wish I could be happy and social but I can’t, cause I don’t like most people anyway. I always find fault in them.
I know I’m pathetic.
I feel I am gonna get hurt or dolor my wife put me in danger so scared of you.
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