marriage help: I’m scared for my future. - Help.com

you need to focus on what’s happening now.

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I am in a similar boat with you. Please don’t feel alone. I am also 27 and married. I am in school but am scared to death of getting a job and what the future will bring… often my worries make me close off from people and push them away-even my husband which hurts my heart. I am always worried about what people think about me and if I’m living up to others expectations instead of my own.. I don’t even know what my own expectations are!

I worry because I am so sensitive and wear my heart on my sleeve that I will not find a good job but I know logically that this isn’t true.

I do know however that God has plans for me even if I cannot see them or know them at the moment. When I worry I give Him my worries and take things one day at a time.

You are not alone and nothing is worth giving up your life over (((((((hugs))))))))

I am finding a therapist to help me with my confidence issues and I know you can help yourself too.

please see a doctor right away

no one deserves to feel this way

He/she can get you medication and/or the therapy you need. There is no shame in it… You deserve to enjoy your life and sometimes hormones stop that from happening.. Take back your life from depression and see someone now. You are worth it. God has big plans for you!

You need to take things one day at a time. Put a smile on your face, it isn’t that bad. I totally agree that it is important to help others. You will start gaining a lot more confidence. Make sure you pray daily and trust me, it will get better. Don’t let this take over your life, it is not worth it.

Hi I am also the same, not to the extent of wanting to kill myself, but I have fisnished uni and am scared for what the future has in store for me, I usually cry and think i would rather live no more because what if bad things happen in the future, how will i deal with them… At least you have a husband, I am 23 and all alone, I am scared of getting a job, I don’t know what I really want to do and am scared of starting a job, also what I am most afriad of is my future, and finding a partner, I am really sensistive and wear my heart on my sleeve also, as soon as someone says something bad or even when i come across someone rude at the shops, or people I know i get really upset quickly. I am scared of finding a partner, getting married and scared of my future, I cry sometimes wondering what if things turn out badly, I have no one to talk to and just try to keep everything to my self, I like being with myself, because I have gotten used to it, and prefer to be at home by myself than with others because I find some people very materialistic, sometimes when I do go out I have a really good time and wonder why I don’t go out more often, but most of the time I always think what people think of me..it restricts me in having a good time and being free to do what I like..i don’t really go out with my friends, I really dont have any good friends anymore as I have stayed away from them..
all I have is that I think God will bring things to me when the time is right, I try to have faith in God, but sometimes its really hard. I know where you are coming from, and I wish you all the best.. (hugs)

I have a friend who went through something similar to that. She has experienced depression and has tried to kill herself. I, too, am terrified about my future. I don’t like to be around people, I’m afraid I’ll never find a husband, and I don’t have confidence in myself that I’ll ever be able to achieve the right job for me. The more I’ve tried to figure out why I feel like this, the more I’ve found that it’s my lack of self-worth. I don’t think that I have anything to offer to those around me and am constantly thinking that I’m a burden. And the more I understand this, the more I see that I will never be able to get through life on my own.

I know that I’m a failure at life — I don’t do what is right and I’ll never be perfect. And this has led me, as well as my friend, to God. We both realized that we need more than what people ourselves can offer. God has provided a way out for us through his son, Jesus. God sent Jesus into the earth to live as a human and then be condemned to hell. When Jesus was crucified, all of our sins (EVERY one) was laid onto Him. When He died, he went to hell and beat death by being raised from the dead three days later. If we believe that Jesus is the son of God and that he did pay for our sins, we don’t need to feel like this. If we believe God, then we don’t need to worry because God says “..I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”. (Jeremiah 29:11) We’ve both tried other ways to gain hope and worth. We both found that Jesus is the only way. My prayer is that you’ll give Him a chance. He wants to save you, too.

I understand each and everything that you are going through.I know my friend how tough day to day life becomes carryibg those feelings. Our heart says something and our intellect says something else. All that is happenig is due to one and only one reason that you do not “love yourself”. We concentrate on others opinion about us and try to please them instead of ourselves. U think others are worthy and you are not. If everyone are so worthy and perfect they all could have become world’s millionaires, which is not true….so stop bothering yourself with all these and start pampering yourself,dress yourself good and do all the things you like to do. If u think that you do not have any interests, try to engage yourself in some construtive work. This helps to boost your confidence like anything.This also increases the sense of worthyness in you and instills hope in you. You will hence never feel helpless. You alone will start finding ways to solve your existing problems. I am blogging at http://spiritualknow.blogspot.com on some good,positive things. Please read that too. Love yourself and enjoy your life…