Well me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years and half we have a daughter together that is 19 months. - Help.com

lean on other supports! You’re lucky to be so close to your mom and family, so lean on them when you need support. If you find him to be unhelpful and not putting in enough work to help the raise the baby, kick him to the curve! you don’t need anybody else. you can be an independent woman. it’s hard to change things, but having agency and control over your own life will make you much more happy! it sucks to be stuck and you’ll be okay because you have family around you. you’re not alone!

First just to put it out. What does cheating have to do with it… o.O
I think maybe talk to him..work stuff out. Go look at jobs before breaking up with him. If you are going to. Plan for the worst. Hope for the best.

no problem. i’m glad to help! have you talked to your mother about it?

Have you told him you’re tired of this (i assume you have) and if you have and he’s still not changing and stepping it up, then its really not fair to you. You work, too, and a child should be an equally distributed obligation! If you’ve told him about your frustrations then talking to your support group (your family) is an important source of venting for you. You can’t bottle it up and be alone in your struggle.
You can try to work it out with him, and i truly hope it works out and he steps it up, because single parenting is a lot harder than having a partner, but at the same time, being PRACTICALLY a single parent while having to deal with a dead beat dad is even harder. i really hope he steps it up!
good luck and stay strong!

You have worked yourself into a situation where you are dependent on other people and a tight money situation. You need to get out of that and when you do, you might find that you actually don’t need him. Emotional attachment should never be enough to maintain a relationship. Practical money matters and life experiences are what really keep a relationship going. As far a love and all that other crap, it’s already there or it comes later. However, your survival and that of your child should come first before you consider anybody else in your life.