are my dreams significant or should i ignore them? - Help.com

yeah i do think about it a lot because i’m the type of person who wants to know the answer (like what were his intentions last summer??) i really don’t know if i like him, or more like, i don’t know if i should. but it’s really really really hard to forget about it.

so what do you suggest?
.. and talking with him about it isn’t an option.

talk to him?! that’s embarrassing.. and we live like 2 hours away. haha and my cousin pointed out that nothing reallyy happened because we are both shy. did i mention the age difference? it’s so weird how age is forgotten when we are all hanging out but then, back to the real world at school during the week, it’s seems strange that we are all able to be best friends! =\

classicrock:
the problem i have is letting it go and forgetting about it, since i do think about it a lot.

yeah, but i don’t see how talking to him about it will either.
i talk about it with my cousin sometimes through a facebook message, so i have a place to vent my thoughts, as well as on here. it’s now over 180 posts back and forth that’s been going since august. aha, maybe THAT’S why i still think about it?

but my heart is scared to talk to him. or embarrassed, or anxious. he never had the intention to make me feel this way so that day was probably nothing at all. my cousin listed reasons why she thought that he liked me and so i believed her because i truely thought that he might.
it’s been about 8 months now. i should give it up, but i’m having trouble.

=\ i likee my shield. there are no unpleasant surprises with it. but thank you very much for the advice, you seem like a very calm person :)

what do you mean by “do some sort of physical activity”? to get him off of my mind??
yeah that probably would help and yes hahaa, skiing IS when i see him and talk to him. this year i chose not to play soccer so that makes it even worse.

ha, same thing

no classic, you are helpful. i just don’t know waht to do. i don’t want to talk with him about it because, well i’m sure you can imagine why. i’ve known him so long that this thing seems almost like an accident or something, it was out of the blue. and the things he did were so subtle (’course my cousin picked up on it before i did haha). should i list them to see if they are like legit or are her and i overthinking this whole thing???
let me know

hey maybe we can help you out with that one.
ah sorry i gotta go eat dinner now but i’ll post them, you just mull over them and try to sort it out, btw they’re from my cousin:

ok first everytime we were in the basement he sat on the couch with YOU
two. when we were on our walk more than half the time he made sure that you two were standing RIGHT next to eachother and i have the pic for evidence =)
3. after our walk he would walk up to us and be like hey katie so what are you guys doing, he would always do what YOU were doinng.
when we were leaving to go change into jeans he freaked out and really wanted to know where YOU were going
4th again when he was on the couch with you he wasnt just sitting he was laying and YOU were laying too
soo yeah those are my reasonsss
=)

then mine:
haha well there were the 3 reasons you said (walking, talking, couch) but then there are also other things like he gave me a flower (”now don’t lose this flower, okay? it’s very rare”.. haha it was a Queens lace which grows everywhere), he sat down next to me on the rock when we were at the waterfall on our road hike, (idk if this counts or w.e) he took both of our spots when we were sitting on the porch eating, on the couch downstairs he kept tickling my side with his feet :P. & there are like some other small things but yeaaaah, thats basically it..

no, nothing totally upfront like that. hes more a guy of actions, not as much words. ha and my cousin maddy was exaggerating a little on some of her examples.
since then, what has happened…? in the early ski season when we all saw each other again i lied down on the couch like i did before almost like a test for him haha and he did, again, lay facing opposite me on the couch, legs ontop of me. but it’s the look that he gives me, like on the couch.. and i don’t mean that he looks at me like i’m beautiful or w/e, it’s just a reaally deep long stare and i can’t figure out what he means by that. any ideas?

what else… hm does stealing and playing with my phone count for anything? it’s either a “can i see your phone?” or a “katie. give me your phone”, and either way i dont really care because i can change things back easily (i cant do anything with his phone its really crappy ha). the only thing that bugs me is what he changes the background banner to, sometimes it’s like “i suck at life” or “loser”. some day i’m going to text him “yeah, i know, thanks for reminding me”. jerk. we’re always hanging out in a group we might text back and forth even if we are on the same couch.
but one time when he took my phone he refused to give it back so i tried to take it from him, i was done with asking. it was a group of 5 of us, up in the attic of the club (theres walls and lights and carpet, not a totally sketchy place) sitting around a small room on old sleeping bags — me and him on one side, three other friends on the other side looking through pictures. now let me tell you, trying to wrestle a phone away from a high school guy while sitting/laying on the floor can be difficult. loll i guess it looked a little suspicious from the others’ points of view. they took a picture with one of their phones!! i have loser friends. AND to top it off, they sent the picture to me, each of them three, anddd to him. losers. he went downstairs so it was us four, all girls. they started saying that he lked me (even his sister said that). i stillllllllllll don’t know.

they still make fun of us for “canoodling”. i don’t even know what that truely means but it doesn’t sound too good :)
oh & theres nothing ‘physical’ either which i’m okay with, since we hang out with a group of friends. haha, unless if jokes count:
“up high” — high five; “down low” — low five; “in the middle” — middle five (?); “cut the pickle” — pretend chop their fingers; “TICKLE TICKLE!”

well still, nothing will come of it =\

this fall he will be off to college, but there’s still the summer

he should know that by now. even though his sister said that, including like.. 4 others, that doesnt necessarily mean its true! i keep doubting it. he’s not one to show his emotions openly (but i wish he did, this would be so less frustrating). and they have said that about other people too. there is another girl who joined the club recently (2 yrs ago) and we all thought that he liked her. she is a hugeeee flirt. wears a lot of makeup. her best quality: AMAZZZING SINGER, just listen:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uZ4orO…

ah and he would be kinda flirty back to her haha he probably wasn’t used to the attention. it kinda made me jealous, and his responses didn’t help that emotion.

what do you mean by that?
and by respond i meant like.. well even just sitting next to her or on facebook (haha, sorry i keep using examples from a website but that is how we all keep in touch generally) she will send flirty messages to him and it’s really seems like he likes her too. she flirts with EVERY GUY so i dont know why he bothers. example:
her: “well if i come up to the ski club you will leave me at like 10 and i’ll be boreddd”
him: “i think it can be arranged so i can stay late”
her: “yayy. can i have a hug when i see you?? :)”
him: “of course”

stupid..

and did you listen to her singing?

hahahahahha.
okay that does make me feel better, but why did you even flirt back if you’re shy

haah ooooooohhh. ya now i can see where the ‘walking STD’ remark came from