friendship help: i was partying with some friends the other night. - Help.com

i was partying with some friends the other night.

Things were ok i guess. i did some bonding with a friend of mine. We’ll call him dude. anyway, dude was having trouble wiht his girlfriend who he has been have trouble with for a while. So i gave him some advice and some heart felt words and he said i meant a lot and i really helped him. which i was glad for cuz he’s a good guy. so i guess they talked. then something happened between them that i wasn’t there for and i still don’t know. then he takes off outside, and the gf is following. I didn’t think he’d get out in the car and drive away, if i was sure of that i would have gotten up sooner and subdued him. but i didn’t get up until i heard the car door open. he had been drinking. he hit a friends car on his way out. he wasn’t totally shnockerd, i know he could drive. but either way its stupid. hes under age. hes emotional. its dark. anything could happen even if he was sober. and his drinking could be blamed, jail and fines. lisence gone. i’ve been there in my own fasion. and i love the guy. so i jump up, im the only one, run out there. hes then starts driving away and i yell abd plead and run after him barefoot ina dirt and rock drivway.
i go in the house and his gf doesn’t know whether or not to wake up his mom. and im freaking out not knowing what to do. shes too scared to wake her up, so i do. cuz im scared for walter and i don’t know what to do for him. maybe that wasn’t best decision idk.
so she just gets up and freaks out, asking ME questions. gf tells me to call him cuz he won’t pick up for h er. so i do. he picks up with a disturbingly calm like nothings going on kind of voice. and im staying calm to match and i ask him whats up. wheres he going. wheres he at. is he coming back. he answers me no problem. i try to get him to come back and park up the road and just chill there. he won’t. i just tell him im waiting in the driveway till he comes back.
his mom comes out, asks more questions.
i wait.
i wait for idk how loong. the suns coming up. maybe 30 or 40 minutes. finally he comes back, i move toward him say a few things, calmly, just “how was your drive?” he blows by me, twice, then into the house.just ignores me.
i go in. moms talking to him freaked out, giving me credit when i didn’t do **** really in my opinion. i can’t stand it, i can’t make eye contact with him, or his mom praising me or chewinghim out so i go outside for a cigarette. dude doesn’t talk to me. only looks. i go crash with a friend on dude’s mom’s bed while his sister talks to him and gf and such im not sure

i just want to know if i blew it out of proportion? i just care for him too much and he scared thehell out of me.
on the other hand i was the only one who did anything.
i couldn’t just go in the house and wait and do nothing, i had to be the , idk what, martr outside.

4 or 5 hours later he drives me home a nd we lightly touch on it. i just mention how his mom is giving me all this credit and such when i didn’t do anything really. and he says that at least i did something and that he wished he had told me he was going to be a while. i apologized for waking his mom up and telling on him. i didn’t say it was because i was so worried for him and felt helpless as to what to do.
so idk how he sees what i did either. any thoughts?

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