My biggest problem is my lack of self confidence.

CrazyInLove85

My biggest problem is my lack of self confidence.

I’m 23 years old and any time I have been involved with men in the past they have messed me around, physically, mentally and emotionally, and it hasn’t really done me any favours for my self confidence.

I’m after meeting this really genuine nice guy who loves me to pieces, and showers me with compliments all day, but instead of making me feel good, it just makes me feel awkward… I’m not used to being called beautiful like and he says it all the time and it just makes me feel wierd… I don’t know how to not feel wierd about it…

As well as that letting my guard down is proving a little difficult too… I feel like I’m not being fair to him because I’m holding back a lot of things because im afraid to open up, as every time i have opened up in the past ive been hurt. This relationship is still in the early stages but i thought i would be after improving some bit by now…

Has anyone any advice as to how to deal with this problem, because underneath it all i really like this guy and I know I would feel like crap if things ended up badly between us…

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kiss_1 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months ago (26 minutes after post)

stand in front of a mirror look at yourself and say to your self that you are the best see you cant love anyone if you don’t love your self first fall in love with your self and see the difference in your self also try some physical exercise it will help you to improve your confidence level best of luck

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An Unknown Location | 7 months ago (33 minutes after post)

Its time to sit down and let go its time to ball your eyes out on his shoulder and bare your soul to him. (With how much you say you have been hurt in the past then all you will have to do and explain your fears and the tears will come).
If this is a relationship you want to last you need to give himrespect and let him share this burden with you.

I am a 36 year old male that has only had 4 partners each of which has hurt me except the current partner but I have been hurt alot a hell of alot of pain and with my current partner of 6 years and 3 1/2 children I sat down and done just that I dont feel comfortable with complimants to well it embarrasses me and I can’t handle being touched lightly on the front of my body becuase of childhood expiriences along with a whole heap of other stuff (I am a complex little package) but for the first time in my life I just let go and I’m not talking about the childhood abuse I’m talking about my fears and if I act like this than its becuase of that and I dont mean to can you help me. It has made us as strong as I think we can be together but thats just my advice

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An Unknown Location | 7 months ago (1 day, 7 hours after post)

srry

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