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How do you tell a girl that you do not want her hanging out with us friends because of the way she acts.

For example, just yesterday we took her to lunch, and when we got into the car, she actaully lowered the volume of the music! Its not even her car! Well later we arrived at the plaza parking lot to get lunch, and two of my friends were showing their new crazy dance moves, we’ll she walked of “embarrassed”! We ignored it. During lunch at the restraunt, one of the girls drink was low and were looking for the waiter, well i told her to shake the glass so the ice would get some attention, well the “emabarrassed” girl thought it was even more embarrasing! and made faces. Well the girl sittin next to her, her cell would vibrate every 2 mins on the table, and “embarrased” girl literally told her “that your cell fone is gettin on my nerves” WTF RITE! So, after we arrived on campus parking lot, she walked off,not even thanking for the ride to have lunch. and amongst ourselves we said how are we gonna tell her that we dont want her riding with us is she is gonna act like that. PS. she made a big deal about sittin in the back!

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usurper offline Verified User (7 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
An Undisclosed Location | 6 months, 4 weeks ago (12 minutes after post)

She sounds boring and yes quite annoying but I dont think its as big of a deal as you guys are making it out to be. Just be perfectly honest, and just ONE of you tell her please, dont do a group convo, it will turn dramatic and feel like an attack - are you all girls or is there a guy in your group that wouldnt mind telling her?

Just ONE of you take her aside or talk to her when all the other girls are not around and ask her about her attitude. Have a mature conversation with her and be honest.

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aliashim offline Verified User (9 months, 4 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 20 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 4 weeks ago (26 minutes after post)

What about kindly asking her if she actually enjoyed your company and the ride.
You can explain that if she feels embarrassed by these kind of things, there’s a good chance that she would feel embarrassed a next time.
If it’s hard for her too cope with these kind of situations she could either try to accept that in this particular company she shouldn’t try to feel responsible for your groups taste of acting and hanging out with eachother,
or if she can’t temporarily overcome her feeling of discomfort, she might feel less embarrassed in other company.
Discuss this seriously without blaming her and without sarcasm.
Perhaps she will just accept your groups taste of enjoying as something to appreciate in its own way, without personally feeling responsible for other peoples behaviour.
Or perhaps she’ll find it easier to look for company with a more similar taste of hanging out.
Also ask her, if something bothers her, to react in a positive constructive way.

Hope this helps.
Let her decide what she likes best.

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