divorce help: My story is probably not that uncommon and maybe everyone else just knows how to deal with it better than I. - Help.com

Sounds like a tough situation for you, I feel for you, I have been in a somewhat similar circumstance. I think it is normal for you to still have these feelings for you and your family. You were married for 6 1/2 years!! It can be tough to try and begin a new life all over again. I dont have a cut and dry answer for you. All I know is you need to take things day by day. Focus on being in the moment, feeling the joy of being with your kids and still having a good relationship with your ex. If you are really feeling you would like to reconcile and try again, why not talk to her about it? Have a “first” date again with her, to just relax and be in eachothers company without all the heavy stuff. It sounds like you are a great dad, but remember to take care of your needs in the process if you are having feelings of sadness and such. When I was going through my situation, I also could not leave town, but I did alot of nature hikes and camping trips on my own. Being alone with the trees really helps me to sort out all of my emotions. (Just a suggestion!)

Hi, I really feel for you, been apart from your family is the worst thing ever. Been frank, I would try to get back with them by any means possible (just don’t appear too desperate!). Let me know what the reasons were for you guys splitting up and I may be able to give you an angle to get back in there. If you don’t want to post on an open forum, you can mail me personally on i> small>(email removed) /small> /i> .

I have 2 young children (1 and 3) and my wife has hit the wall a number of times and wanted to split up, this has been more to do with her wanting to find her independance rather than us not getting on. But every time we have managed to talk it through and resolve the issue.

If you want help, let me know and I will do what I can.

Thanks for attempts. Sorry, but I’m not going to go into details of why we split, they aren’t really that relevant at this point. And Buell’s idea of trying again: I know her well enough to say that she would not be interested at this point, likely never. She is dating someone and it is getting serious, but even if she wasn’t, I don’t think that would matter.

I guess I’m looking for some kind of “off” switch for my feelings. I seem unable to do little more than cope with them, I need to get rid of them, or forget about them. Any anti-depressents that do that?

There definitely is meds out there if it is starting to affect your life. Talk to your doctor about it, he probably would have a better idea as to which med would help you. What about talking with a counselor, or joining a mens group that is based around dealing with divorce?