Editing Post: My story is probably not that uncommon and maybe everyone else just knows how to deal with it better than I.

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My story is probably not that uncommon and maybe everyone else just knows how to deal with it better than I.  Simply put, after 6 1/2 years of marriage, my wife and I split up.  This was noyt my choice, though she is certainly not "the bad guy" in this situation.  I am responsible for 50% of the blame.  There were numerous reasons for the break up that I am not going to go into; my problem now is I can't seem to move on in my life.  We've been apart for 1 year and half and I still think about her every day, multiple times a day.  I am convinced that we could be happy together if we were to try again.  Maybe this is just rose-coloured glasses, but I think I've changed enough to make it work, whether she has or not I don't know.  Realistically, there is no hope.  But I can't get over her.  We have two small children that we share custody of, so I can't move to a new city, which would probably be good for me personally.  But I won't abandon my kids, it's not their fault I screwed up.  My ex- and I actaully get along quite well, far better than most divorced couples I think.

Essentially, my thoughts are dominated by the idea that being with her, putting our family back together is what I really want in life.  Anything else is not what I want, therefore I find it extremely hard to be enthuased about much anymore.  My friends (who have been great supports for me) tell me I have to focus on the rest of my life, move on.  But I don't know how (or maybe I'm just too afraid) to do that.  I have a scenerio in my mind of what I want, what my life should be.  I can't have that.  And I can't reconcile those two things.  Any suggestions?

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