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so i just got my first boyfriend on wensday the 22.

and i guess i kinda liked him in the begging. but im starting to like him less and less!!and i dont know why! any girl would be lucky to have him!!!!

he’s a hand holder, likes to cuddle. he cares about everything u say. its like the simplest things that would drive any girl CRAZY!

but for some reason for me….idk…….

but also i just turned 13 on the 29 and i havent even had my first kiss yet, which i thought wasent a bad thing…even possibly good, but people keep naging me to kiss him! and its not for the fact i dont want it to be him, its for the fact i dont think im ready to have my first kiss even though i probably sound stupid right now…

but all his friends are bugging me about it. and they are all giving him krap about it and teasing him. he’s says he doesent mind, but i do!!!! and every little thing bugs me!

i told my 3 closet friends i want to break up with him but all of them say not to and to tuff it out!

and also i kinda found out about a surprise party im having tomarrow. but only my mom knows that i know. so im still gonna act suprised. and i know that he will be at my side the whole time….and i hate that!!!! and i wanna break up with him soooooo bad…

but he makes this harder by giving me the sweetest card, when he’s never given a card to any of his girl friends before. and he’s telling everyone at school im the greatest girlfriend he’s ever had!

this relation ship was just supposed to be a ‘’teasting out the waters'’ sorta thing, im not ready for a full commitment like he’s acting like it is! HEEELLLPPP!!!!

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forcallofdut offline Verified User (8 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (36 minutes after post)

It sounds like you definatly should break up with him if you can’t even stand him being around you. I can understand your feeling this way, because quite frankly, when a guy puts you up on a pedistol, it can be annoying. It’s part of human nature…I don’t really get it myself, but when someone makes themselves soooo available to you, you find less value in them. I think a lot of chemistry in relationships have to do with the “push-pull” thing, and it seems that all your guy is doing is pushing. Without any pulling on his side, you don’t really get much of a chance to “push”-making it a one sided relationship. If you do break up with him, keep it staight to the point…there is NO NEED to point out any flaws. It sounds like he really does care for you, but the chemistry just isn’t there, and someone like that doesn’t deserve to be led on. Aslo, you deserve someone that you can appreciate. Just keep in mind, it’s not yours or his “fault”…it’s JUST human nature. I hope this helps :)

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color my world! offline Verified User (7 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (37 minutes after post)

okay. thanx.

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Help me with: i only wanted this to be a ‘testing the waters’ relationship.
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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (5 months, 3 weeks after post)

omg i have the same problem. except for the fact that i started liking him less before he asked me out, which was today. im not sure if i like him anymore cuz i like thsi other guy too. i need some advice cuz i dont wanna be a jerk and all my friends think i like him but….. idk i dont want to be mean or a liar so should i just tuff it out? i dont want to play him so what should i do.

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An Unknown Location | 2 weeks, 6 days ago (6 months, 2 weeks after post)

you should always just tell the truth and let the chips fall where they may. You may think you would be better off just sticking it out but your only making yourself more miserable and he will see that. Do what you think is best for you and if your friends arent looking out for you, they are the ones with some problems. Life is supposed to be fun so why do this to yourself?

p.s. i hope I can take my own advice:)

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