I’v been married for 42 years and am now going through divorce.

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I’v been married for 42 years and am now going through divorce.

There’s no one else involved but we don’t want the same things anymore and my husbands behaviour is so extreme now that I can’t live with him. Money is tight, lawyers want so much and we’re struggling in this respect. My job of 20 years is coming to an end which is adding to the pressure. The house is up for sale and I will have to find another one when it sells. I’m struggling to cope with all this … when I’m on my own what do I do if I’m ill? what when my car breaks down? What do I do about the loneliness? It’s so overwhelming I feel there’s no light at the end of the tunnel and in the meantime I have to live with my husband until the house is sold which is becoming really hard, endless arguaments.

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An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (4 minutes after post)

What do you mean when you say your husband’s extreme behaviour? What does he do or not do that is so extreme? Is it a new behaviour or you saw it coming long time ago?

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An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (13 minutes after post)

Wow you are in a very tough possition, 42 years is a long time. The divorce is only the beginning. You will need to go throught the complete greving process, to end a marriage as long as yours was will take time. I am sorry you are having to go through this. I am divorced now for over 2 years, I had to sell my house and move with our son, we were married for 11 years together for 15 yars. Time does heal the heart. The lonliness will be filled with new people and new beginnings.

When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.”

Do not forget to look for the open doors
There will be doors opening for you once this one closes, I promise

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (58 minutes after post)

Sometimes you just need someone to talk to. If there is any way you can get some counseling or support, that might prove to be very helpful. I ended my marriage after 25 years about 5 years ago, and I’m still struggling with it. I wish you the best. You can make a new life for yourself, but it will take time. Peace.

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