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Do you see a doctor about your depression?

no, i’ve been thinking about it, but i’m not really sure how a doctor will help me. Especially since i have a really hard time talking to people, especially about personal problems and such

well you need a doctor, they are trained in things like this to help. Please see one, you will get the help you so very much need

… really? my number one problem in doing this though is telling my father that i’m depressed enough to see a doctor and that i think about suicide sometimes. i feel like if i tell him something like that he’ll think i’m a nutcase or something like that. He’s not exactly that sensitive to other people’s feelings. most of the time the things he says makes me feel worse even though he means no harm so i’m a littles care to talkto him about it

what about your mother, or a friend of the family that you can talk to that can tell your father for you

my mother died when i was young and all my relatives live in another country or state. And i’ve only got about one close friend and where not to the level where we tell each other are our deep personal problems. As i’ve said before i’m extremely shy and antisocial.

well you will have to step out of your shell to help yourself. You will need to tell your father, pick a time when he is most relaxed and say dad I need to talk to you.

i’m a little scared of that though. If i tell him it will probably seem just out of the blue because i never let my real emotions show. I probably just seem like a person with no troubles at all since i always put on a smile in public and at home

Or so you think, he may be more understanding than you think. He may know more about you than you realize. This is worth the risk, do it for you, and let me know how it turns out. Remember he is your father, he loves you let him know that you are hurting and need help

thanks, i think talking with you has really helped me. i think i’ll try to gather a little courage and try it

I also think you are stronger than you give yourself credit, you will be ok, talk to your dad in a calm and honest way, I beleive you will get results

If you get your body moving, even when you are tired and depressed, I can guarantee that it will help some. GO out into the SUN and walk. The Vitamin D is known to help lift your mood. You get that from the sun. Moving in and of itself will help your brain to produce a certain natural chemical called seratonin. Seratonin is a natural anti-depressant. Do that daily for a week. It might help you to feel more courageous about speaking to your father.

You DON’T need to tell your dad everything. You can tell him that you have been pretty down lately and that you want to see a doctor to get some help. Tell him that you want him to support you and take you to the appointment. That should be enough.

If that doesn’t work well, you can also lie your face off. (not that I recommend it, but as a last resort might work). Tell him that your periods are really bothersome and that you need to see a doc. I can practically guarnatee that he won’t ask any more questions after that. That is TMI for most people. LOL.

Good luck!