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if it helps your not the only one. I haven’t even really did my college registrations yet.

First off: There’s no simple solution to anything.

But, you know, I’m 18 too. I have no idea where I’m going, or how I’m going to get there. You just have to take it one day at a time, go with the flow, and savor the bliss when you’re lucky enough to find it.

michaelgdbrow wrote:
savor the bliss fk off you dont know nothing

…Yes, I do. I’ve unfortunately suffered from clinical depression since I was very young. I’ve also struggled with self-injury. I’ve found strength in the people around me to try to fight through it, because I don’t like the looks on their faces when they figure out that I’m sad and hurting. I don’t want to make them upset anymore, so I’m trying my hardest to look on the bright side of everything.

Don’t tell me I know nothing. I’m obviously a lot wiser than you are.

If you think they have simple solutions and claim you dont know them, your kidding yourself one way or another. You probably already know but just dont want to do it so you ignore that path. Your better off than I am though and your going to college so dont worry about it, you can take a lot of majors and minors and come up with what to do from that. Not everyone does what they are interested in as a career, some just do a career and do what they are interested in as a hobby or something.

Thanks :) Honestly if I were you I’d go with the flow; it sounds weird but to me it makes sense because sometimes the harder you try the more you cover up the answer but sometimes when you just stop it’ll just flow through. As for me it’s my accident it what being a pain. I totalled two cars within one year and my insurance price is already astronomical and my parents have to deal with everything I just don’t know why I’m such a liability. What’s worse is I honestly don’t feel I should be blamed for this accident that I’m dealing with but apparently with all the details it is. So I have all these things running through my mind. Sorry for ranting on your page.

Hmm well I can’t exactly give you any advice, but in order to support yourself and your bf you have to have a stable job and pays somewhat decent. If you were to move I’d say you must find a job over there otherwise it’s gonna be really hard when you get there. If your main priority is help you bf finding a decent job is the first goal and then you can concentrate on other things like slowly get school in and by the time you start you slowly might have feel of what you want to do with “life” That’s probably what I would do. Sorry about your aunt by the way

I was going through the same thing at 18, you’re not alone! I settled in at college, and got use to it, and the depression wore off after a few days. It’s ok to be scared, but remember, it’s not what you are, it’s what you do. And it doesn’t have to be permanant! Nothing’s permanant. I thought I was doing well and everything, but my plan didn’t work out. Now, I don’t know what I’m doing. You’re ok. There will be times when you feel lost, but it’s not the end of the world. It’s only temporary.

I’m 20 and in exactly the same position as you. It’s hard isn’t it. I think there is so much pressure on young people to ‘know’ what they want to ‘do’ and get a ‘career’ and go to ‘college’ or wherever.Everyone is different, there is no rush. Some people know early on what they want to do…for others (like me and you) it takes time. Especially if like myself, you don’t have much ambition! ha. For now just go with the flow, get a job for now. Give yourself time to think about what you truly want to do.There is no time limit. Don’t feel pressurized into further education. YOU control your life, no one else, and YOU will do what you want when you are READY. Easier said than done. Good luck :-)