Sorry if this is so long but I really am desperate for help.

freakiiboo70

Sorry if this is so long but I really am desperate for help.

So it was back in july that I had met some boy that my sister jennifer knew and the boys name was derek . So it appeared to be that my sister had like derek and I didn’t know so when we both started talking to eachother he use to tell me that he liked me and not my sister and I was like “ok w.e ” so then I don’t knnow how I started liking derek a lot and I told him and so basically we both liked eachother . . But in november a huge problem xploded and it was that derek liked me and my sister and I was hurt I mean I even got sick and I was crying for days . And my sister was just like “whatever ” and he kept denying that he liked her or me so he sqwashed it . . So in december he wrote 2 me saying that he was really sorry and that he had stopped talking to my sister and I was like “ok listen I’m goinng to forgive you but never forget” and he said “good enough” and to be honestt I loved him so much . So that’s when he asked me out and I said yess so we started going out december 4th 2OO8 behind my sisters back because if she knew I was talking to him she’ll stop talking to me sooooo now it appears to be that my older sister [lucy] and my mother found a note that said ” derek loves ashley” and my sister totally flipped out and I dont know what to do and my older sister is saying that since he be around our way that she’s going to jump him with other people =’( and I don’t want that

Please tell me what shOuld I dooo?! There’s not much timee idk whether to brake up with him or what I don’t know

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Lavis Knight 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (10 minutes after post)

There are a few things i think you need to consider, i know that you have strong feelings for this guy, but he does seem to have a history with your sister as well.

The situation may be difficult to reconcile emotionally with your sister in light of this. By the sounds of things your sister had strong feelings for Derek.

Have you spoken with your sister much about this? She is probably quite hurt that the relationship was hidden from her for so long. If she responds purely on that emotion she will probably say a lot of things that she may not mean.

freakiiboo70 0 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (17 minutes after post)

In my eyes my sister didn’t have strong feelings for him because while she was flirting with him she had a boyfriend and she use to talk so much about derek with me and I didn’t like it but I know its wrong because we let a boy get into our sister relationship. .
I’ve tried talking to her but she has no patience and 9 times out of 1O we are going to come out fighting . I can’t talk to no one about nothing in this house its like they speak with there hands and I’m kind of weak when it comes it relationships and derek wants to tell my sister that we go out but I’m not letting him because I don’t want to loose her as my sister or him as my boyfriend

Help me with: I wus doinq cruches yesturday like about 5O lol and today my back legs were hurting and my stomach wus like feeling tight

Lavis Knight 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (24 minutes after post)

If we look at this in the long term, i believe things will only get worse the longer you do hide it.

How long would you hide it from your sister? Telling her could seem disastrous in the short term, you could potentially have a lot of people angry with you, but the longer this relationship with Derek lasts the harder it is going to be to hide it.

freakiiboo70 0 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (27 minutes after post)

I told him ill tell her when the time is right
Oh god =[
So brake up with him?
So there going to be happy and I’m just gona be here sad,and depressed? Just like that

Help me with: I wus doinq cruches yesturday like about 5O lol and today my back legs were hurting and my stomach wus like feeling tight

Lavis Knight 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (31 minutes after post)

I am afraid i cannot tell you exactly what you should do; however, i can tell you that hiding the relationship from your family can be a strain on the relationship itself.

It is like pushing a rock up an eternally steep hill, the longer you push the faster the rock is going to be going when you finally let go of it.

I am so sorry, i realize this is difficult and no matter what you choose you will probably hurt. In life there are times when there isn’t an easy choice or even a favorable choice.

freakiiboo70 0 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (38 minutes after post)

Ugh
I’m talking to him now and ima bout to break up with him. I can’t . No one in this house is talking to me I’m trapt
But yesturday when my mom found the paper that said “derek loves ashley” she said
” I found a paper that said “derek loves ashley wat the hell was that all about ?”
And I said “oh my friend wrote that to me ” and she said “ok just checking don’t keep stuff like that ” and she threw it out but its like my boyfriend he had wrote 2 my sister recently and said “I’m talking to my girl” and she said “ok I don’t care” but he didn’t say the name and now my older sister just said “‘oh this little muther f**Cker is fresh telling jennifer that he’s talking to his girl when I catch him ima jump him with some people”

So how are they 1OO% sure that I’m his gurl? If he never said my name.

Help me with: I wus doinq cruches yesturday like about 5O lol and today my back legs were hurting and my stomach wus like feeling tight

Lavis Knight 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (42 minutes after post)

It isn’t easy :(

freakiiboo70 0 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (44 minutes after post)

Its not at all. . =[
I hate my life

Help me with: I wus doinq cruches yesturday like about 5O lol and today my back legs were hurting and my stomach wus like feeling tight

Lavis Knight 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (46 minutes after post)

I realize this is said a lot, but things will get better and life will go on. Pain is a part of all of that at times. It may be difficult to see past this now, but you will.

freakiiboo70 0 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (51 minutes after post)

I hope so because I’m Stuck and been stressed ever since uGh I shoudlnt even be having bf’s at this aqe now I know why parents say to wait.

8O8 and heartbreaks

Help me with: I wus doinq cruches yesturday like about 5O lol and today my back legs were hurting and my stomach wus like feeling tight

Lavis Knight 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (56 minutes after post)

Keeping yourself busy can help take your mind off of it, dwelling will make it much worse.

I wish the best, take it easy today and remember to breathe!

freakiiboo70 0 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 1 minute after post)

I quess so. i Always try..

Thanks you’ve been a great help. .
ill try.

Help me with: I wus doinq cruches yesturday like about 5O lol and today my back legs were hurting and my stomach wus like feeling tight

Armond 1 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 41 minutes after post)

the only thing i have to say is blood is thicker then water.

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freakiiboo70 0 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 44 minutes after post)

What??

Help me with: I wus doinq cruches yesturday like about 5O lol and today my back legs were hurting and my stomach wus like feeling tight

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