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Is it social anxiety?

we dont like it when we have to make the first move, we pefer when guys do it. Remember to look clean and smell nice, no one wants to be around a stinky person. First make friends with the girl, slowly process towards dating. Dont go to fast, if it turns out you dont like the girl anymore dont dump her cruely; this will go on your social record, countine to be friends. Flirt but dont be pathedic, treat her like a friend. some of the things you could tell the girl to approach her is just greet first, once you are sure you have her attention start a conversation. Let her talk, dont draw so much attention to yourself or else you might find yourself blabbering away and she loses her intrest in you. Good luck

Seriously, is it social anxiety?!

jonathand wrote:

zharl wrote:
Seriously, is it social anxiety?!

yes, i’ve posted it before, but i’m really confortable with talking to people now, i just unconfortable about looking for a girl :/

OK! Just wanted to say,

*Internet hi-five*

Same here, buddy. Sorry I seemed to be so prying…this is just the first time I’ve found someone else who seems to be in a similar situation as me. :-)

It makes me feel a little less alone, ya know?

jonathand wrote:
LOL! *Internet hi-five* ( do you ever seen “How i met your mother?”)

you should try www.socialphobiaworld.com its a nice site and you may be able to feel connected with others with the same problems :) - i’m not visiting the site much often , but it helped me in the begining.

Well, I’m not quite sure that my level of anxiety is severe enough for it to be too helpful, but I’ll certainly check it out.

And no, I haven’t seen “How I Met Your Mother.” ;-)

no pick up lines! We don’t like it when a guy doesn’t seem genuine. Just be yourself, and be honest. And do have the courage to make the first move, because girls don’t like doing that. Don’t stop if you get turned down at first, everyone gets rejected at some time, it’s a part of life.

I think you need buy some goods in www.gobuyvogue.com for her.And so beautiful and fashion but not much money

until about three days ago, i’d be completely with u on this one, saying i know how u feel and that it does seem impossible and all of that.
However, i was at Rock Challenge on friday, its a big dance/drama performance thing worldwide, with plenty of oppurtunities to talk to new people, even though i usually dont, because of the problem you have.
Thing is, a few friends and I were just walking through the canteen, and a group of girls said hi to us. Thinking it was no big deal i just said hi back and carried on walking. later on, i end up talking to them again, and they’re all really great people and i’m so glad I decided to try talking to them, because it couldn’t have turned out better.
So what i’m saying is, don’t worry about just saying hiya to a girl, she’ll most probably appreciate it, unless she is seriously ignorant, stuck up, over confident, or to the other extreme, That scared of unexpected socialising. Thankfully most girls arn’t like this.
So just give it a try, it’s not like asking for their hand in marriage, it’s an easy thing to get over if it doesnt go that well.
I wish you all the luck in the world.

OK bars pubs are the worst places to talk to women. The best thing you can do is say hi to people on the street, grocery store, coffee shops.
women at bars are expecting that you are trying to hit on them so their defense is up. Not at the grocery store.

Confidence is The most important thing you need too you can’t fake it you have to grab your junk every morning and say that i am the baddest muther###### i know. I am confident. fill in the blank.

you have to be a MAN

my problem im not kinda thin person so dont think that no girl will ever think to talk to me & im trying to get thinner but i dont know if there is other way or not but please i need serious answer

yea this is my case i will try and do my best and thnx for advice