Love help: is it him or is it just me?

shazzy8

is it him or is it just me?

he knows i like him (our friend told him but he doesnt know that i know about it - thats what i think), but im not sure if he knows to what extent.

whenever we are with each other (and the rest - we are never the two of us), it seemed like he didnt care much. he doesnt give attention. he gives the attitude, sometimes raises his voice and we quarrel all the time (not as if i mind cos we quarrel all the time since day one).

all the time he makes me feel hopeless. like there isnt any chance.

and all i’d think of doing is back out.

but everytime i try to pull myself away, he comes back pulling me in. whenever i keep to myself for a whole day, he will start texting me to ask what am i doing, if im going out etc. sometimes he gets sensitive towards how i feel and then starts being nice, making me fall for him all over again.

is it that hes playing around with my feelings now that he knows i really like him? or he just wants to be nice? or is it just his ego that doesnt want people to know that he MAY like me back?

or is it just me — maybe thinking too much, feeling that he likes me back when he doesnt?

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shazzy8 edited this post 6 months, 3 weeks ago. Read the previous text »

and all i’d think of doing is back out.

but everytime i try to pull myself away, he comes back pulling me in. whenever i keep to myself for a whole day, he will start texting me to ask what am i doing, if im going out etc. sometimes he gets sensitive towards how i feel and then starts being nice, making me fall for him all over again.

is it that hes playing around with my feelings now that he knows i really like him? or he just wants to be nice? or is it just his ego that doesnt want people to know that he MAY like me back?

or is it just me — maybe thinking too much, feeling that he likes me back when he doesnt?

shazzy8 edited this post 6 months, 3 weeks ago. Read the previous text »

is it just me? or is it him?

he knows i like him (our friend told him but he doesnt know that i know about it - thats what i think), but im not sure if he knows to what extent.

whenever we are with each other (and the rest - we are never the two of us), it seemed like he didnt care much. he doesnt give attention. he gives the attitude, sometimes raises his voice and we quarrel all the time (not as if i mind cos we quarrel all the time since day one).

all the time he makes me feel hopeless. like there isnt any chance.

and all i’d think of doing is back out.

but everytime i try to pull myself away, he comes back pulling me in. whenever i keep to myself for a whole day, he will start texting me to ask what am i doing, if im going out etc. sometimes he gets sensitive towards how i feel and then starts being nice, making me fall for him all over again.

is it that hes playing around with my feelings now that he knows i really like him? or he just wants to be nice? or is it just his ego that doesnt want people to know that he MAY like me back?

or is it just me — maybe thinking too much, feeling that he likes me back when he doesnt?

Miss Jessica Bunny 26 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (3 minutes after post)

Just ask him

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usurper 9 #
An Undisclosed Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (3 minutes after post)

What do you mean “his ego that doesn’t want people to know that he may like me back”

Why would you want to be with someone who makes you feel like that?

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shazzy8 0 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

Miss Jessica Bunny wrote:
Just ask him

ah. been thinking of it. but our friends who knows about how im feeling towards him think that i be patient with it and keep it slow. hah.

plus i dare not ask actually. hah.

shazzy8 0 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

usurper wrote:
What do you mean “his ego that doesn’t want people to know that he may like me back”

Why would you want to be with someone who makes you feel like that?

well. maybe hes too ego to confess?

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shazzy8 edited this post 6 months, 3 weeks ago. Read the previous text »

is it him or is it just me?

he knows i like him (our friend told him but he doesnt know that i know about it - thats what i think), but im not sure if he knows to what extent.

whenever we are with each other (and the rest - we are never the two of us), it seemed like he didnt care much. he doesnt give attention. he gives the attitude, sometimes raises his voice and we quarrel all the time (not as if i mind cos we quarrel all the time since day one).

all the time he makes me feel hopeless. like there isnt any chance.

and all i’d think of doing is back out.

but everytime i try to pull myself away, he comes back pulling me in. whenever i keep to myself for a whole day, he will start texting me to ask what am i doing, if im going out etc. sometimes he gets sensitive towards how i feel and then starts being nice, making me fall for him all over again.

is it that hes playing around with my feelings now that he knows i really like him? or he just wants to be nice? or is it just his ego that doesnt want people to know that he MAY like me back?

or is it just me — maybe thinking too much, feeling that he likes me back when he doesnt?

oipriorgior #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (12 minutes after post)

for the love of monkeydom why are you wasting your time moping over this when you could ask him and get it over with, ego or no ego get it over with and get it out of you mind

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shazzy8 0 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (16 minutes after post)

oipriorgior wrote:
for the love of monkeydom why are you wasting your time moping over this when you could ask him and get it over with, ego or no ego get it over with and get it out of you mind

its easier said than done but theres lots to be considered really. cos we are very good friends and we have alot of mutual friends as well. i just didnt want to affect the friendship in any way.

oipriorgior #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (21 minutes after post)

the relation will be worst effected by avoiding it, at least you can tell him about you tangent feeling and at worse he rejects you, maybe makes a joke and you move on, and at best he like you to and is to chicken to say it

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velvettundr 1 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (23 minutes after post)

If you’re not going to ask and he’s being an *** then how bout for the next week don’t really talk to him. When he texts you and ask what you’re doing then say you are going out with friends or something. Oooor you can think about the kind of person he really is and ask yourself why you really wanna go out with him

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shazzy8 0 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (24 minutes after post)

oipriorgior wrote:
the relation will be worst effected by avoiding it, at least you can tell him about you tangent feeling and at worse he rejects you, maybe makes a joke and you move on, and at best he like you to and is to chicken to say it

hahah. thats cute. thanks anyway. :)
im waiting for the right time to ask actually.. but when is it… i dont really know.

littlenick 131 #
An Undisclosed Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (29 minutes after post)

Sounds like a love/hate relationship and neither one of you can make up your minds as to whether it’s worth it to give it a shot. So when you think you might be close to giving in and giving the relationship a chance, you begin to quarrel because it’s easier to quarrel and maybe “destroy” the relationship for that moment or day than to actually make an effort and really find out if it can work.

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shazzy8 0 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (29 minutes after post)

velvettundr wrote:
If you’re not going to ask and he’s being an *** then how bout for the next week don’t really talk to him. When he texts you and ask what you’re doing then say you are going out with friends or something.

ah. thats a good idea…i should try that. though its gonna be really hard cos everytime i try to keep to myself, he haunts my mind.

honestly, we just click somehow, as much as we quarrel. :)

usurper 9 #
An Undisclosed Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (31 minutes after post)

shazzy8 wrote:

Miss Jessica Bunny wrote:
Just ask him

ah. been thinking of it. but our friends who knows about how im feeling towards him think that i be patient with it and keep it slow. hah.

plus i dare not ask actually. hah.

In my experience, this usually means that he doesnt like you. if the mutual friend is advising against it. But there is only one way to truly find out

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shazzy8 0 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (32 minutes after post)

littlenick wrote:
Sounds like a love/hate relationship and neither one of you can make up your minds as to whether it’s worth it to give it a shot. So when you think you might be close to giving in and giving the relationship a chance, you begin to quarrel because it’s easier to quarrel and maybe “destroy” the relationship for that moment or day than to actually make an effort and really find out if it can work.

i guess what u say applies to him. but not to me. cos since the 1st time i knew him, we bicker alot but we always end up laughing it off. and til now, it becomes a norm and we never really take things to heart everytime we quarrel.

shazzy8 0 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (35 minutes after post)

usurper wrote:

shazzy8 wrote:

Miss Jessica Bunny wrote:
Just ask him

ah. been thinking of it. but our friends who knows about how im feeling towards him think that i be patient with it and keep it slow. hah.

plus i dare not ask actually. hah.

In my experience, this usually means that he doesnt like you. if the mutual friend is advising against it. But there is only one way to truly find out

ouh yes. especially the ones whos close to him advised that i give some time. what other way is that?

littlenick 131 #
An Undisclosed Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (39 minutes after post)

Try to make it work.

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velvettundr 1 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (40 minutes after post)

shazzy8 wrote:

velvettundr wrote:
If you’re not going to ask and he’s being an *** then how bout for the next week don’t really talk to him. When he texts you and ask what you’re doing then say you are going out with friends or something.

ah. thats a good idea…i should try that. though its gonna be really hard cos everytime i try to keep to myself, he haunts my mind.

honestly, we just click somehow, as much as we quarrel. :)

I know what you mean. It’s really hard but you gotta ask yourself if you BOTH are clicking or if you’re just attracted to him. If it’s not going both ways then it’s honestly not gonna be worth it. I know this is hard but i’m sure whichever way it goes will work out

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shazzy8 0 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (42 minutes after post)

velvettundr wrote:

shazzy8 wrote:

velvettundr wrote:
If you’re not going to ask and he’s being an *** then how bout for the next week don’t really talk to him. When he texts you and ask what you’re doing then say you are going out with friends or something.

ah. thats a good idea…i should try that. though its gonna be really hard cos everytime i try to keep to myself, he haunts my mind.

honestly, we just click somehow, as much as we quarrel. :)

I know what you mean. It’s really hard but you gotta ask yourself if you BOTH are clicking or if you’re just attracted to him. If it’s not going both ways then it’s honestly not gonna be worth it. I know this is hard but i’m sure whichever way it goes will work out

yup. i see where ur coming from. thanks velvettundr. :)

shazzy8 0 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (43 minutes after post)

littlenick wrote:
Try to make it work.

thanks nick. :)

LeoLady89 0 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (1 day, 5 hours after post)

My advice from expierience is as follows. Find somebody else because once this guy sees that he no longer holds your attention he will get jealous. If he texts don’t answer but me nice to him. If it turns out he really likes you then you will know what to do. Some people just do not realize how special someone is until they are no longer there…

shazzy8 0 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (1 day, 11 hours after post)

LeoLady89 wrote:
My advice from expierience is as follows. Find somebody else because once this guy sees that he no longer holds your attention he will get jealous. If he texts don’t answer but me nice to him. If it turns out he really likes you then you will know what to do. Some people just do not realize how special someone is until they are no longer there…

wow leolady. i like that! thanks really. i think its worth a try. :)

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