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mixed feelings are hard to explain. try just giving her time, and being there for her, but dont advance yet. you have let her know you interested, now its time to wait for her to decide. try to imagine her position.

Thanks a lot for the post ‘Advice Queen’. I am happy that you could put some sense in me. Well, in the mean time, while I give her time, what should I be doing? As i have written in my previous post that we are always together with two other friends. All of us work in different offices. We meet right after the office hour and stay late as we sometimes eat dinner in a restaurant or go to a silent place and listen to some music or sing and all. Two of us sit at the back sit of the car and it so happens that I end up holding her hand and she fiddles my fingers and palm and gradually leans on me.

What should I do to impress her and make her understand that my love is a genuine one for her? She once said that she likes me but it is not love. I have been in some couple of relations and have never felt like this before. I liked her from a very beginning and since she was in a relationship with my cousin brother I had to hide my feelings.

How should I be talking to her during this wait period? How do I make her realize that my love is true for her? PLEASE ADVICE.

time as in not alone time, but time away from you trying to get her to go out with you. just take a little break, and hope she’ll miss it. as for immpressing her, show her you are mature, NOT jealouse, and that you truly love her. its up to you how you will show it, but good luck. you sound like you deserve someone nice

thanks Advice Queen. I will let you know the updates.

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Hi Queen,
Could not help myself and met her yesterday. Actually she called and I could not say no. It was not a date though, other friends were also there. I feel she does not want to be in a relationship with me but my thoughts and idea may be wrong. I am getting restless and i cant concentrate on my work. I need things to be finalized and come to a conclusion as it is troubling me a lot. Am i just thinking about me or is it bound to happen in the condition that I am now?

hi QUEEN, I could not help my self and met her yesterday. Actually she called and wanted to meet. it was not a date though since there were others friends too. I feel that she is not interested but she cant express. Am i being restless and not waiting enough or is this what happens when people are in my situation?
I need a solid HELP.

hmm, this is tough. try asking her for coffee, just the two of you. alone time is important in any relationship, friends or more. but make sure to tell her whether you mean a date or just as friends.

Hi Queen,
I asked her out for coffee yesterday and talked to her about it. She said she will tell me the next day and this is what she had to say in sms: “am sorry for doing this to you. Even if i was in ur place i would have been encouraged (the way i was with u). But after thinking a lot, I asked myself should i go ahead?but something inside me…i have the feeling that i really don’t want to get into it. “
I am not unhappy about her decisions but the way she put things up. What should i tell her to make her realize that this not just about me? I want to stop the tough journey here but make her understand that this is not the way she should close things down.

i am hurt but i don’t want to hurt her.

im glad you talked to her, but your right. they way she put things isnt right. just tell her that, but say it in a way that wont hurt her. or, simply tell her your not trying to hurt her.

arrrg! m too hurt to tell her things.. thats not it. if i tell her bout it i will definitely hurt her. m too irritated “QUEEN”. Please tell me what to tell her! Queen help me.

I have done all I can. I cannot control your life, nor can I tell you how to live it. the advice I gave you is the best i have, It’s up to you whether you use it or not. If you need to, take some time away from her to cool off, then talk. Communication is key in any relationship, be it friends, family, or lovers. I wish you luck, goodbye.