Love help: Guys especially read this… HELP….I have previously posted a reply about this but if you can help, please do.. - Help.com

Any new relationship will seem hot and exciting at the beginning. However, don’t anticipate bad things happening in it. You worry about it when the future gets here. You are already making the future with this new guy bleak and boring as it is with your boyfriend now. However, if you want to keep your boyfriend that you have now, talk about what you feel and where the changes should happen. If you stay quiet and mute, nobody is going to hear what you want or desire. Tell your boyfriend you need a change in your relationship and you need more jazz in your life and more excitement. Unless your boyfriend is psychic and can read your mind, he won’t know what you want.

Your relationship is boring.

So what do you do to make it interesting?

Is your boyfriend your entertainment source?

What do you do to make your own life interesting so you can share it in your relationship?

Maybe its the suit? lol.. sorry but im not a fan of women wearing suits or suit like clothes.

Anyways. No one here will be able to make this decision for you. You will have to live with that decision either way. If you are bored in the relationship its up to BOTH of you to make it better. Not just him and not just you. It looks like your just waiting for him to make it better but it takes two! Comunication is one of the MOST important things in a relationship so if you are really serious about this situation then heres what you could do:

Talk to your boyfriend. Tell him that the two of you need to talk and tell him everything thats bugging you. And dont sugar coat it. If he truly wants to be with you and in the relationship with you then he will listen and want to help make things better. and if he suggests things for you to do then you need to put forth the effort.

Something you really might consider doing, before or after you chat with your boyfriend, is to decided what you really want!!! You need to know what you want before you can have anyone in your life. And if your just staying with this guy because its been 3 years and your comfortable then your probably hurting yourself. And just know that if you do decided to explore and go with a new guy. Know that you might lose your boyfriend forever. That doesnt mean you will never find a guy again or ever get married. Its just really important that you look at all the angles so that you dont feel worse after tou have made your decision.

He needs to be made to know how you feel, obviously if he does nothing he must feel very comfortable in your relationship. I admit this can happen over time with just about anyone.

Even if it hurts him now it is important that you tell him exactly how you feel; however, don’t allow this singular desire to consume you totally, you may end up leaving a great relationship over very reconcilable problems only to jump into a total shipwreck.