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Three years ago, when I was 18, I met a guy online.
(I’m gay). We lived like 1000 miles apart, but we ended up falling in love. Now, I know, falling in love online was stuipd. But we were friends and it just grew. We kept trying to meet up when I could get some vacation time off work, but he ended up getting a boyfriend. Soon after I got one, and when he and his boyfriend broke up, I didn’t break up with mine. Which made him mad. This happened twice, one of us having a boyfriend and the other not, then vice versa. Finally, about a year and a half ago, we were both single. I started planning to come see him which was making us both happy. Around this same time I found out I was inheriting money from when my grandfather died, an amount well over a few hundred thousand. I told my internet friend about this, and because he was going through money problems, he begged for some. I loved him, so I agreed. I had to wait 3 weeks to get the money, so I stayed put and didn’t go see him. During that three weeks however, he decided to get a boyfriend and didn’t tell me until the day after I bought plane tickets to go see him. But what he also said was that if I came there, I could leave a check in his mailbox at his house, but his boyfriend didn’t want me and him hanging out. Hurt as hell, I didn’t go see him. Wasted that money. We did stay friends for the past year and a half while he’s been with his boyfriend, but not close friends. We’d always fight about me sending him money. I sent him over 10,000 and he still wants more. He threatens me saying that if I really cared about him I wouldn’t put a limit on how much I gave him. Should I really have to pay to be his friend? He didn’t see that I was, but I felt so. He would be happy when I talked about sending him money, but refused to talk to me unless I was talking about the money. I kept dragging this one because I wanted to go see him and actually hang out with him, not drop the money in his mailbox. I eventually started talking to his boyfriend, and convinced him to let the three of us hang out when I got there. We ended up fighting over non related stuff, and now aren’t talking at all. The fight, however, was caused by my friend. I was just caught in the middle of it. Even though it wasn’t my fault at all, I apologized to my internet friend and his boyfriend. They, of course, are being ******* and wont talk to me. I really want to be their friends but I can’t even get them to talk to me. I wasn’t the cause of the fight, why am I being punished? Everyone tells me I’m better off without him, because he did hurt me and **** me over a lot during our friendship, but I still love him. I don’t know if this is one of those cases where I just have to get over loving him, or what. If you’ve heard the quote “Don’t give up on someone you can’t go a day without thinking about”, then you understand this. I can’t go 10 minutes without thinking about him.
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