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Call the police…. He’s either been hurt by someone or he has hurt someone..

I don’t think you have much choice and to be honest if i was you i would be getting your mam up out of bed… Check to see if the blood is coming from injuries he has … if not then it looks like he has hurt someone…. do you really want to be responsible if he has hurt someone and they are lying hurt somewhere in need of medical attention….

I’m sure you already did this but maybe just let him have your word on if he has any problems he can talk to you. Cause I’m slowly going out of that phase and I’ve learned and gotten a lot better at not being such a trouble maker. Anyways I’d say just let him have your word that you’ll be there for him and possibly he’ll soon open up. He may not give you full details but at least you’ll know what been going on…Cause most likely he’ll keep on doing what he’s doing but when he knows that if he gets in trouble he’ll have someone to look to it won’t be as bad. If it does get bad lay some ground rules don’t make him feel like he’s in jail but let him realize he has boundaries and he should at least have decency to accept that afterall you’re family.

You’ll be surprised how quick he will sober up when he has a six foot copper stood over him telling him to get up.

Call the cops on your brother? Do you want him to hate you for the next 50 years? Did you have someone following you around telling you what to do and being your boss when you were his age?

No…. i didn’t…. but then i didn’t come home covered in blood with the possibility of someone lying in a gutter somewhere needing help!

But you’ll quite happily stand by and watch him get arrested for GBH for worse when someone is found beaten up or worse….

15 year old boys fight… it’s no big deal and it happens every day. Probably it was one of his friends and they both threw a few punches and will forget about it tomorrow. Men and women are different. It sounds as if he is the only man in the house and you and your mum expect him to act like a girl. Well not even your mum, just you.

I would like to think that most people who have been on the receiving end of violence would never want to inflict it on others…. actually i would like to think no one would inflict violence on others but this is not a perfect world…. but you said he was drunk…. You can’t assume that he would act rationally in that state…. how do you know he didn’t hurt someone and then his friends got him out of the “situation” pretty dam quick to avoid the police…. Did one of his friends try and offer an explantation? I don’t think…. more likely they legged it as soon as he was close enough to his own front door not to get lost…. and why?

From what you said he came home… then disappeared again for fifteen minutes… sounds like he got it into his head to go and sort something out… certainly not the act of a sober rational person is it… then he comes home with blood on his hands and legs… it has to be someone’s blood….

Another thought, I wouldn’t say it’s a bad idea but only do it if it’s a must. spy on him.

Well it lessens the risk of someone being hurt somewhere i guess if you are sure it’s blood just from grazes.

I’m not saying he went out with the intention of killing someone but do you have any idea of the amount of people who get hurt because of drink induced violence? And it takes one unlucky smack, a hit on the head, a push that knocks someone to the ground and results in a much more serious injury than was ever intended.

His friends are not going to spend the night at your house when he is in any kind of trouble…. no matter how welcome they are… they leg it and hope never to be tied to the incident.

Spying… Maybe …. but what will it actually achieve… you know he is going out with his friends, drinking and getting into fights…. you don’t actually have to see him doing it to know it is happening. I would be concentrating more on finding him some help…. if you think this is more than teenage stuff… If it’s just normal teenage stuff then just back off and let him learn from his own mistakes…Which hopefully won’t include him serving time for assault.