What if i’m the ONLY reason he isn’t dead yet? - Help.com

Wow, that is a lot to carry. You can be there for him but not to point that you forget yourself. In the end, we can’t keep people if they really wish to go. This is not something you should carry alone…tell him so. He needs to find help if he wants it or not. Regardless of the out come it is not your fault. Seek help, for you …for him.

it’s kind of like the saying, give a man a fish he’ll eat for a day, teach a man to fish, he’ll eat forever. you’re doing a great thing, but it’s SUCH a heavy toll. i’ve been there too many times. somehow, you need to not make him happy anymore, but teach him how to be happy. think about this with a creative perspective. show him all the little beautiful things in life, and tell him that with optimism he can be happy again, no matter how much he’s doubting this. it may also take some time, but by being creative and finding things for him to put him on a better road, you’ll be cheered up too, and with time you’ll get some freedom from trying to carry the weight of his world.

I would go with it for awhile, but you’re going to have to be honest with him. He’s his own man, when it comes down to it. No one can really make someone else happy, unless they are putting in some effort too. I like what optimismiles said. Just lay it all out there. I have found that complete honesty is almost always the best in these situations. Of course it would hurt you if he killed himself, but no human can know what another human’s journey is all about. If he REALLY wants to kill himself, even after you’ve tried to show him all the reasons in life there are to live (and let me tell you, not very many people have a friend who would CONTINUOUSLY be there for them through this kind of ********. Alot of people would try to talk someone out of suicide once or twice, but most people would get tired of it sooner or later). I mean that’s a reason to live right there, but I don’t know all the other factor’s in this man’s life. I understand that sometimes there’s just no fix. But that’s kind of my point. You probably weren’t put in this life to be this man’s babysitter. You can tell him the truth about how it would make you feel, but that’s no reason to stay in this life. The fact that he said he would stay here for you, not to hurt you, would worry me. He has to stay in this life for him. Anything else would be expanding or at least prolonging his pain. In the end he has to do what’s right for him, regardless of how it affects other people. And while I would never advocate suicide to anyone, personally I believe that it is a way out, that the creator gave us, if we really are that miserable, that we can end our own life.
Ultimately you’re going to have to do what your heart tells you to do. **** what all these idiots (including me) have to say.

that is rough. just be yourself beacuse if your friend comits suiside it would never be your faut beacuse you dident do it.

this is to much for anyone to handle …. he says he doesnt want to hurt you but hes hurting you just as much by doing this …. in aa when there are things like this or even totaly different that we have no control over we have to learn to give it to the higher power weather that is g0d or superman :) …. noone can have this on there plate and be able to handle it because if hes gonna do anything it is not in our power to stop him …… we are not g0d or superman we can only do so much then leave the rest up to the higher power …. i hope everything works out just remember to take care of yourself to …. inorder to handle something like this you are putting all his emotions with your which is ALOT for anyone to handle ….. good luck