boyfriend help: I am planning to do a gap year program so I can work in england and be with my boyfriend.

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I am planning to do a gap year program so I can work in england and be with my boyfriend.

I found a great gap year program where you actually get paid, it’s not just volentary. However my choices of work is either to be a nanny or a bartender. I am a very shy person and both of them would be difficult but I am willing. My parents however think I wont be able to handel either and suggest I should just go to england for a holiday. But I just think they don’t want me to start a life in england for they worried I might stay. Especially because my mother said I am not allowd to leave unless I have a return flight. Completely forgetting about the visa only allowing me 2 years to stay and 1 of those to be working.

I want to spend as much time as I can with my boyfriend. And I think it would be best if i go to england and work so when I come back i’ll come back with something and also this way I can work off to get money for a return ticket.
Just fustrated because last year when I told parents I wanted to do gap year they were supportive and said they will help, then
> they will only pay for passport
> passport and lugage will be both my christmans and birthday gift
> now I need to get my passport without help.

Honestly I think as the time draws closer they keep putting up more more excuses making it even more difficult to go.
For with money, I have enough for a flight there and a bit more. I would get a job but I want to know if I am going to be a bartender or nanny so I can get a job now that will help me get experience in what I choose. For who would hire someone with no experience?

This weekend I planned to talk to the gapyear program to get more information to make my choice but my parents didn’t want to and made excuses. I even heard my dad on phone yesterday talkin to his mum (because it was mothers day) and he told her I am going for a holiday.
Like this is my life and I want some support in my choices. Not for them to decide for me.

I am doing my last year of school before uni.

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Red_Sky 4 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months ago (29 minutes after post)

Are you in school right now?

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I am planning to do a gap year program so I can work in england and be with my boyfriend. I found a great gap year program where you actually get paid, it’s not just volentary. However my choices of work is either to be a nanny or a bartender. I am a very shy person and both of them would be difficult but I am willing. My parents however think I wont be able to handel either and suggest I should just go to england for a holiday. But I just think they don’t want me to start a life in england for they worried I might stay. Especially because my mother said I am not allowd to leave unless I have a return flight. Completely forgetting about the visa only allowing me 2 years to stay and 1 of those to be working.

I want to spend as much time as I can with my boyfriend. And I think it would be best if i go to england and work so when I come back i’ll come back with something and also this way I can work off to get money for a return ticket.
Just fustrated because last year when I told parents I wanted to do gap year they were supportive and said they will help, then
> they will only pay for passport
> passport and lugage will be both my christmans and birthday gift
> now I need to get my passport without help.

Honestly I think as the time draws closer they keep putting up more more excuses making it even more difficult to go.
For with money, I have enough for a flight there and a bit more. I would get a job but I want to know if I am going to be a bartender or nanny so I can get a job now that will help me get experience in what I choose. For who would hire someone with no experience?

This weekend I planned to talk to the gapyear program to get more information to make my choice but my parents didn’t want to and made excuses. I even heard my dad on phone yesterday talkin to his mum (because it was mothers day) and he told her I am going for a holiday.
Like this is my life and I want some support in my choices. Not for them to decide for me.

Red_Sky 4 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months ago (35 minutes after post)

My advice to you would be, to still look into schools. If something doesn’t work out at least you have school to fall back on.

Just make sure you have all the kinks worked out “enough for a plane ticket and a bit more” is not substantial if you’re planning on staying for two years. I’m not trying to discourage you at all, but it is really exspensive to live in England. So if you could get a job here before you leave, it’d be for the best.

Make sure that he’s saving as well.

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An Unknown Location | 7 months ago (51 minutes after post)

id go with nanny
to be honest.. nanny seems like an easier job nnot to mention its safer
u dont wana b working in a bar in a place uv never been to befire with no one there to help u out if things go bad

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (5 months, 1 week after post)

how do i start if i want to get a job for my gap year

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