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Why did he stop talking to me?

I’ve been friends with this guy since September 2008 and i like him, i think he likes me but then again i’m not sure. He’s always talking to me, touching me(arm,thigh),complimenting me on my clothing, staring at me in class and when i walk by him in the hallways, teasing me, we held hands a couple of times. But he’s also close with this other girl, they talk a lot too but they don’t flirt and play around like we do.I decided I was going to tell my crush how I feel. I went up to him and said “Hi, can we go somewhere?” Then he said “No.” After that, I told him that I needed to talk to him and he started to smile and asked “What about?” With poor timing, this guy interrupted us, so I didn’t get to tell him. After that, I spoke with my friend about it; she said that I should go tell him. I was scared and she could see the way I felt. She went up to him and told him that I wanted to talk to him. He responded “I’m coming soon.” To my dismay, he never came, and the only exchange between us from that day on has been silence. I noticed that he’s everywhere I go these days. He’s by my locker area and I tend to catch him staring at me when I’m talking to my friends in the hallway. I just don’t understand.

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Anonymous #
4 years ago (10 minutes after post)

Don’t send your friends to tell him things. Its just silly. If you want to talk to him, than go talk to him.

He was probably busy. Or he was annoyed that you sent your friend to tell him YET AGAIN that you wanted to talk to him.

Look - you already told him you wanted to talk to him. Twice. If he wants to talk to you, he will make the effort. I’m sure he’s not an idiot and he can somewhat guess that your interested.

So just don’t be pushy. You said your peace now just be patient.

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spanishflute offline Verified User (4 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years ago (25 minutes after post)

He might already know what you want to talk to him about
if you want you could send him a secret admirer note LATER give him another note saying who it was who sent it.
dont worry, most guys i know act that way when they have a crush on you, he might like YOU (not the other girl) back.
maybe the other girl is just his friend

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Hello users,Im Sandy offline Verified User (6 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
CA | 4 years ago (51 minutes after post)

to be honost, this seems like he was interested, but not enough. maybe he did like you but from the hints he dropping it seems that he doesn’t want anything more then what you already have. a simple flirtatious relationship. and i do believe he already knows how you feel, the better reason to not push it hun. if he knows then he would do something about it. he can hold your hands and touch your arm and thigh so clearly the issue isn’t that he’s shy. maybe he’s just not a commitment kind of guy. if you really want to them ask him if he wants to hang out and catch a flick or something. but be prepared for the worse. Which, when you really think about it, isn’t too bad. if he says the “i just want to be friends” line then whatever. atleast now you know and can move on to something else. good luck though. i really do hope it works out the way you hope.

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IrAdler offline Verified User (4 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years ago (2 hours, 7 minutes after post)

Like Sandy said, this boy wants to play only. Don’t force it anymore, he is not worth it. Let him do the leg work and run after you. You made it clear to him what you want but he didn’t want to respond to that. Clear enough don’t you think?

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An Undisclosed Location | 4 years ago (3 hours, 49 minutes after post)

Completely Agree with Sandy.

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rploffred offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 4 months ago (7 months, 3 weeks after post)

Well I don’t really like him anymore but I can’t get him out if my mind and I really want him to ask me out so I can get him out of my head! He is cute and ever since I’ve met him, we used to talk whenever we’ve seen each other. But when I started liking him, he stopped talking with me and he began asking out tons of pretty girls in the popular crowd and talks with their friends and he leaves me out of his life. (What I mean is that he never asks me to join in and talk with them whenever I’m sitting alone at recess.) His twin is nice but I get really nervous when I want to talk to him because he seems nice to the cool girls but I’m afraid that he tell me to lay off and never talk to him again. He once saw me at recess while talking with his girlfriend. He smiled at me and said hi to me in a friendly way. I said hi back. He also thinks I should go for the New Jeresy Chorus! Either he is beginning to like me or he hates me!

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madisonxy offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 11 months ago (1 year, 1 month after post)

Same here girl this guy he did the same to me. Hold hands, playing together, hiding together n lots. And suddenly we go so close that we too don’t realize. He hasn’t said a word about liking me nor did i to anyone. But we always are so close to make feel so different. People think about something going on but nothing is still i like him a lot. He totally behaves insane once he is too close to me n the another he is not talking to me n nothing. Just plain nothing. Cant he just say what he wants or does doesn’t know anything. He’s good at studies, sports, caring perfect son, brother, student.

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jasminegonzales7 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 7 months ago (1 year, 4 months after post)

what do i do tho i told my crush i liked hima nd he stopped tlakin to me he;s never around no more he never hangs out with me like we used to i dont understand

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toniwilson. offline Verified User (2 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (1 year, 8 months after post)

beatricegalant wrote:
Like Sandy said, this boy wants to play only. Don’t force it anymore, he is not worth it. Let him do the leg work and run after you. You made it clear to him what you want but he didn’t want to respond to that. Clear enough don’t you think?

I agree I think it is all a game; games people play if really truly want a relationship he would have made it clear to her that’s what wanted by now
instead of leading her on. That boys and men are, they lead you on and then
they leave. Even if they did got together for a long term relationship
it can still not be worth it he would still play games and leave. they are
all players, you can be as good as gold, they still play games trust me
iv’e been there.

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tunis13 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (2 years, 5 months after post)

I got close with a guy, fittest in the year, then ppl started taking cos we were always together and he wss thr guy who never got close. We got talkin on the phone and suddenly one day he said never talk to him again. Nd its strnge cos we were so close. Just act lyk u don’t give a crap about him anymore, then hell come running back. Guys seem to wantwht they cnt have more than what they can

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narinder. offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (2 years, 8 months after post)

I hope someone tell me what they think about this situation.. There is this guy i’ve been talking to at work and just lately he’s been paying me more attention than usual. We both have different religions, he asked me if i would ever consider getting with someone from a different religion.
I explained that whilst theres nothing wrong with that, it depends on your family situation and if whether they would be accepting of it especially if decide to go long term with that person.
He then asked would i consider being with someone who had come from a different relgious background even though the guy would be willing to convert to my relegion!

I replied with something like thats complicated! Anyway what i want to know is, was he just testing me to hear what i would say and was he hinting to me that he was interested even though he didn’t ask me in a direct way?

I find it abit odd how all of a sudden he wanted to know what kind of guy i would get with.
We both have good conversations and there is a physical attraction between us although we have never done anything about it!

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