girl help: Everyday when I get home from work/school I feel sad and worthless. - Help.com

What makes you so sad being home?

Get into a regular exercise routine. Running, biking, swimming. Join a group that is chasing a goal like running a 5k race and training for it. It’ll give your life structure and help work out those feelings of worthlessness.

You’re anxious. Anxiety is common. The more you worry about being anxious the more anxious you get.

porterman1259 wrote:
I just feel lonely, worthless, pissed and basically a mixture of emotions.

There has to be a reason though. Thats symptoms not a cause. If you cant even think of it then you just have clinical depression on some level.

I know exactly how you feel bro, I went through this last year for about 4 months. Its a horrible and dreadful feeling . Do you have friends? Why can’t you relax and are you stressing because this girl wants to chill with you this summer?

porterman1259 wrote:
The more I worry and care, the worse it will get? Do you know any pills I can take than?

anti-anxiety medication you gt from a doctor.

Wait before you take meds , can you tell me this. What are you worrying about , and what do you care about? What is getting worse? Can you answer those for me

You don’t use pills to get rid of anxiety. You use pills to control it while you learn to change your behaviour. Your behaviour needs to basically confront things you are anxious about and do them anyway and persist until you feel relieved. Otherwise you will have to keep taking more and more meds until you’re a zombie because your behaviour just reinforces the anxiety response in your brain.

You can always find lots of people to hang out with if you try. Just try and do something you normally wouldnt do to make that happen. Well you still have your work to see people though.

porterman1259 wrote:
I tried, but it got blocked. I’ll say it again. I feel like I won’t have as much interaction because I am leaving school. I don’t know what to do with the girl. I never really hung out with too many girls and I feel like if I get too close to her than I will feel even more depressed because we are going to different schools in the fall.

Okay before I try to help you let me remind you that you are making the “future” your enemy and what I mean by that is you are taking problems from the future and getting stressed about them right now. Okay so you are leaving school shortly and you know that your social interaction and “comfort” is going away, This may be true but thats not the only interaction there is in this world bro, people are everywhere and only you can go out and interact with the world. Okay about the girl, from what it sounds like, you do not sound like a bad guy or anything so why not give it a chance hang with her without thinking about the future, just think about what you have right now cause its the only thing you ever have. Don’t let yourself say to yourself “oh I have never been around girls, I don’t know what to say” so on and so on, Just be yourself and have fun with her. Just because you two are going to different schools in the fall doesnt mean you cant still be friends does it? So yeah for starters get rid of the future and the past and try to stay more present =)

I dont think you have to completly stop

Your problem is that your obsessed with popping pills to solve minor problems.

Your just overreacting, calm down, learn to meditate or something.

Look past and future are not bad but why cant you deal with what you have now. What I meant is you are taking things that arent even happening and making them a problem.

Either way you can either face your demons and living your life in the “now” or you can just keep avoding it and smoking and popping pills. Whatever makes you happy

Exactly! you have nothing to deal with right now, because right now you are dealing with next week. which is the future. this is the kind of future you have to keep out , and to do that you need to do something like right after you read this, go play a video game, watch a movie do something other then think.

Then go to a doctor because you might have general anxiety disorder. It makes you anxious about everything.

Turn your brain off and go do something fun lol

No you deal with it when it comes, not when its not coming which is like right as i type these words, and you are sitting at your computer thinking away about a week ahead when you could be doing so much more, Im just trying to help you see past your thoughts that they are only thoughts and you need to be free bro, what do you like to do for fun?

Actually thats chill, you should try downloading some Photo workshop or video editors and make some movies with your photos or whatever. Try to do something deep down that you like to do no matter what it is.

Get obsessed with what, and worry about what?

porterman1259 wrote:
I try to do that, did you read my post. I tried many hobbies and drugs, but for some reason it is going away. I know it will come back, but for then I don’t know.

I did but clouding your mind is not the same as clearing it.

I think if you think of a reason not to worry then it will help. Your worrying doesnt get you anywhere ever does it? I mean when was the last time it helped you? Theres no point to it then right? Just realize your worry is a reaction that is unnecessary to nothing more than things that dont exist. Worry comes from the “what ifs”. Once you notice that the other side of a “what if” is a good thing and not a bad thing and if you expect the good you will have no reason to worry. If your expecting the bad then just realize the good is always there and theres noting you can do to stop it and the worrying only makes you feel bad about what never happened. If you want to feel bad, feel bad about things that have actually happened.

bye bye then