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yes mnaybe be its karma but try to be strong and keep faith on god
good luck

Go for the man your heart desires, man

Marriage is hard. You never get along with anyone all the time forever. You have to work through your problems, that’s what true love is. I would suggest telling your husband he needs to change or you need a change.

Wanting something that you don’t have is very common when the current relationship isn’t going so well. It is far easier to look for a way out or look for excuses than to try to fix the problem.

Whatever happened in your first marriage has no bearing on your second. This is yours to fix and you can choose to either not fix it, fix it alone, or fix it with your husband.

I truly am sorry that this is happening, and marriage is hard, and you need to ask yourself the hard questions, has your husband always been like this, did he change after you got married, or what has happened to make him think this of you and be clinging, smothering and jealous?
There is something that he isn’t getting from you that makes him this way… it isn’t your fault, it is that he needs, you both need to communicate your needs in a way that would be better understood.
Perhaps if you can see this in him, discuss this with him without saying ” you make me feel this when you say that.” Try a subtle approach by saying ” I understand you may be feeling this, but I want to reassure you that …’

Marriage is not built on just one person and it’s not dismantled by one person… it takes two and it all depends how hard you want to work and how bad you want your marriage to work.
Maybe set some time out for the two of you? Get him to come along a few times with the outing with the girls, just to put his mind at ease? Maybe take a dance class together, or pottery class… would counciling help, a self help book you both can read together?
Try something new that will get his attention… read to him a love poem while he enjoys a nice bubble bath drawn by you… I’m not saying be a slave to his needs, but I am saying that maybe you both need to work in this marriage alittle bit more… and stop looking for a way out through your ex and hoping and wishing things could be different… woulda shoulda coulda’s are just idle words that keep one stuck in a rut.