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a year ago i had this thing with this boy

my friend liked him but he liked me, we had a fling then we just kinda ended ,but not really.
then like a year later he asked me if i still liked him , because he wanted to go out with my friend but not hurt my feelings, i told him it didn’t matter if i liked him or not and he should just go out with my friend, they broke up after a week ,because apparently she wasn’t what he was looking for …
so i never stopped liking this dude ,but he never liked me , he just wanted the fling , and right now im not sure what to do , my friend is over him and she is okay with me doing what i want.but we dont want a relationship , we just want a fling , but i dont really see what the difference would be ..?
i feel confused , so the other day i told him to leave me alone and to just not talk to me , he is so clueless sometimes i just want to knock some sense into him .he agreed , but now i kinda regret it ,coz i feel like im falling into darkness(coz of something else)and he is the only one who can save me , even if he will never feel the way i do about him…what do you think , is this a good or a bad idea..bear in mind he doesn’t like me he just wants a fling and i would be kidding myself ,but is it worth it coz i really like
him , or do you just think i will get hurt.?
i feel like he udnerstands me , i feel like he is the same as me and we can relate to eachother, but im not sure if we will just screw eachtoher up , like we did before…
we dont really talk to much in person ,we go the same school , so its kinda akward,but i always feel kinda loose when im around him , i feel like i have no worries …i dunno

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xlaraelizabeth offline Verified User (6 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 Add Friend #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

I don’t really understand. So you really like this boy because he understands you but you don’t really talk to him? I would say the best you can do is just be his friend, that way you get to spend time with him, but it’s not going to end up with you getting hurt. But you need to look at the reasons why it didn’t work out last time, has he specifically said that he doesn’t like you in that way? I believe that you can’t even have a fling with someone unless you are attracted to them in some way, so if hes saying thats what he wants, then he must find you attractive. And it sounds like you get on. If i were you, i would go for it because it could end up being really great, or just a bit of fun. However, i might be a little more thick skinned, and if you have the gut instinct that he would end up messing you around then leave it. Maybe his friendship is the most you can ask for at this point, especially if you’ve tried before and it hasn’t worked. Also, if he’s messed you around before, AND your friend then maybe he’s not the kind of guy you even want to associate yourself with. But then again, I don’t know him to make that judgement.

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madalene offline Verified User (10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 Add Friend #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (17 minutes after post)

thnks, we dont reallt talk in school , we talkout of school , i should of said that .
it wouldnt work as friends, there is to much history there.

thnks for the help

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