Love help: Who is right and who is wrong? - Help.com

simple fact, from the mentionings you have made she sounds very ignorant of herself, respectable behavior and the events surround those around here.

but there is no right or wrong, only point of view

ok i only have one side of the story, yours, and as such i can only base it on that, compounded by the grammer at times made it a bit hazzy.

but here is the point, if she is in college she is in a situation wher you are either manipulated or are the manipulator, or you actually find real friends, she does not realize the difference between people looking out for her and people using her as an end to there own motive, and i must say they sound like some dumb motives if it only revolves around parties and who is sleeping with who.

now that aside she is lieing, and a lie is a art form, and if she making stick drawing and using the same drawing over and over to explain away thyen she is being a fool and you are putting up with somthing you should not be

also the fact that she and you were given free boarding for two terms by some guy is very “intresting”

in this time of life there are things that change in people, and if she is not aware of them then it is going to eat her. this is not about control, this is about trust, and you need to decide weither you trust her, and in turn you need to level with her and tell her that if she wants a relationship with you that you want a commitment on her part, and ask her to not do the things you do not like. in turn if things go seperate you need to deal with that and move on.

but if you do not level out about what you need in a relationship and about how you feel about the actions and behaviors of those around her than, even if you do not stay together she is missing an opinion from someone she has spend a part of her life with.

but like i said there is no right and wrong, she should not be letting herself be used like this but in the end there is only point of view, and you should share yours with her.

well is she living at the sorority it is different, but if she is not then you should tell her that if she wants to have a commited relationship with you that you do not want her randomly running out and partying.

understand that depending on her age she may not be ready for it, and even then i am guessing if she is not able to drink and is in america she is 20 or under.

it is alot to ask, but you have to ask her to decide what is more important, don’t try to influence or control her choice, just tell her that if she does not stabilize her behavior you do not want to be with her. now there are exceptions to everything and this most curtiently is onme where exceptions are called for, but she need to know that she can come to you for anything, and in turn you WILL NOT put up with lieing if they are flimsy and obvious

i repeat, come to you for anything, but DO NOT lie.