sex help: Sexually confused, or sexually frustrated? - Help.com

If you’ve liked girls your whole life, you’re not gay. I think you’re just second guessing yourself, and the power of suggestion is messing with you. Just relax. No worries.

Thank you, I am still confused though. Is there anything that I can do so that this isn’t constantly on my mind?

In psychology, we learn that trying not to think about something is the surest way that you probably will. That’s why people with OCD can’t focus on not thinking about the compulsions they have. It’s counterproductive. Try telling yourself “I’m not going to think about a big pink bunny” over and over again. That’s what will come to your mind. Instead, if you have a thought questioning your sexuality, have a thought ready to replace it with. (Maybe imagine a big stop sign in your mind, or have a fun song you like that’s about women, etc.) In time, it will lessen. (If you’re the kind of person who prays, that could help too)

Thank you so much. I can feel the confusion lifting and I’m starting to feel myself again. Thanks :)

Glad to help!

It’s back what do I do?! :/

You may just struggle with thoughts for awhile. Just don’t let it turn into actions, or you’ll become more confused. Keep trying the techniques we talked about. Don’t let yourself worry about it. It’s normal to be curious and wonder.

:) I seem to feel fine until I think about it. Also like I said before I am in a kind of ‘Limbo’ of being confused & I kind of like this girl but my attraction towards her doesn’t feel the same as it did before when I used to fancy her, it’s somehow weaker :/ Also today I was watching TV and there were two gay men on a comedy and they kind of turned me on, but then I felt really ill and sick. I know I’m not gay because I still get turned on by girls. I’m more confused than ever now :/ PS Thanks for all your help, I really appreciate it :)

Sexual things can turn people on. You can just decide where you want your thoughts and life to go. Whatever you immerse yourself in, that is where your mind will go. Though it’s not anywhere near the same thing, even pedophiles had to develop a “taste” for it.

Is this a normal thing for teenagers to go through?

I know lots of people (teenagers included) who have gone through a curious phase. Just be true to who you know you are.

I’m so confused atm, I really want to have sex with a woman but at the same time I don’t want to. What the hell!? Also when I think about a woman I don’t get aroused but when I see a picture of a woman I do, why?!

thanks that really helpled me too :) at least we’re not alone. and it’s wierd isn’t it, you just think about it all the time and its soo confusing! my friends always used to call me gay like ‘you’re so gay!’ even though they know I’m not. it’s really scary but hopefully it will go soon :/

I haven’t been a teenager for awhile, but what you’re both experiencing is very normal. I’ve had some friends who have acted on the curiosity, but they have always ended up being more confused later. Obviously it’s your decision to make, but when I’ve had those kind of confusing thoughts, I’ve just pushed them away. I’m now happily married, and don’t have those problems anymore. I think part of it is just the sexual repression. Take your time finding the right person for you, and don’t worry about being “turned on” occasionally by this or that. Be confident in who you know you are despite those natural curiosities.