inconstancy is the worst ill of this world. Best not hurt someone you have come to be with for a while: rather, work on loving the one you’re with.
i dont think you should break up with her. i know that if i were your gf, i would get sad…and mad if you broke up with me then went out with another girl. maybe you should talk to your gf about this. see how she feels. but if you arent getting along with your gf, maybe, but not for sure.
are we all inconsistent? i appreciate ur advice,but what if i dont love the one im with? i only get one life,isnt it wrong to waste it?
n0tacr00k wrote:
inconstancy is the worst ill of this world. Best not hurt someone you have come to be with for a while: rather, work on loving the one you’re with.
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advice wrote:
are we all inconsistent? i appreciate ur advice,but what if i dont love the one im with? i only get one life,isnt it wrong to waste it?
just invest more energy into the relationship you already have. If you want other women so physically, just relieve yourself.
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lovehimlots wrote:
i dont think you should break up with her. i know that if i were your gf, i would get sad…and mad if you broke up with me then went out with another girl. maybe you should talk to your gf about this. see how she feels. but if you arent getting along with your gf, maybe, but not for sure.
hi,thanks.look,i feel like if i left i would be cutting off my arm,but that said part of me knows that i dnt love her and that im settling.
i dont think thats love,and if it is ,then i dont think i want a part of it.
does that make sense?
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If you don’t want to be with someone: you break up with them.
No one deserves that. No one deserves to be stuck with someone who doesn’t love them for who they are.
If you don’t love this girl, for whatever reason, then yes. You break up with her because it IS best in the long run.
What would be worse: to break up with her NOW, or 5 years down the line when you have to tell her you never loved her in the first place?
Two things that should never go in the same sentence: LOVE and SETTLE
usurper wrote:
If you don’t want to be with someone: you break up with them.
No one deserves that. No one deserves to be stuck with someone who doesn’t love them for who they are.
If you don’t love this girl, for whatever reason, then yes. You break up with her because it IS best in the long run.
What would be worse: to break up with her NOW, or 5 years down the line when you have to tell her you never loved her in the first place?
Two things that should never go in the same sentence: LOVE and SETTLE
u dont beat around the bush.
i hear you.in all honesty ,i think both of us ,not just me ,dont want to be alone.and that is a huge impediment to us breaking up.but i suppose i know in my heart that fear isnt enough of a reason to stay.
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thats true. just make sure to end it easy. dont do it over a text, call, or email. girls dont like that. just say that you think that it hasnt been working out that well lately and that it would be better if you were just friends…but in person. but wait about a week or two to go out with someone else after you break up with her. your gf could think you broke up with her just to date other girls. that happened to me about a year ago. i wasnt happy at all
Break up with her. I think you know that staying with her while having these feelings is wrong. If it’s a bad choice, you will miss each other a lot, and may have a second chance in the future. In my opinion, you’ll probably move on. You’re not married, so it won’t be as messy. (no kids, right?)
No it isn’t. And if it is - its one of the worst possible reasons. And it would probably make her really sad if she knew that’s why you were staying with her. Probably even more so then you breaking up with her in the first place.
Keep in mind - after breaking up - everyone feels the anxiety of separation.
It sounds like the best thing for both of you.
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lovehimlots wrote:
thats true. just make sure to end it easy. dont do it over a text, call, or email. girls dont like that. just say that you think that it hasnt been working out that well lately and that it would be better if you were just friends…but in person. but wait about a week or two to go out with someone else after you break up with her. your gf could think you broke up with her just to date other girls. that happened to me about a year ago. i wasnt happy at all
sorry evryone,i think i mis-stated how i feel. i dont want to see anyone else,im just saying that im attracted to other girls and i can tell they are attracted to me. i dont want to see anyone else if this ends.i just dont feel my present g/f is the one for me
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it’s ok to be attracted to hot girls!
Leap wrote:
Break up with her. I think you know that staying with her while having these feelings is wrong. If it’s a bad choice, you will miss each other a lot, and may have a second chance in the future. In my opinion, you’ll probably move on. You’re not married, so it won’t be as messy. (no kids, right?)
no kids,she wants marriage and kids.for me ,thats a minefield that i dont want to enter
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littlenick wrote:
it’s ok to be attracted to hot girls!
more than ur partner?
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littlenick wrote:
it’s ok to be attracted to hot girls!
more than ur partner?
Why not?
advice wrote:
more than ur partner?
dude, that’s fine, so long as the physical doesn’t overwhelm the relationship by taking action.
whats the point of a r/ship then? i should just move to utah and have 6 wives
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Ullk…this all sounds wrong to me.
You’ve said several times that you know in your HEART that you don’t love her and she isn’t the one.
There’s your answer.
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usurper wrote:
Ullk…this all sounds wrong to me.
You’ve said several times that you know in your HEART that you don’t love her and she isn’t the one.
There’s your answer.
ok
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