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My fiance and I have been together for 1.5 year.

We’ve been engaged for 1 year already. It’s weird. Past two months, she has been treating me different. I kept at it, cause I feel she doesn’t really want me as she did. two days ago, I pushed the line and asked “what do you want… what do you want” she tried to avoid the question and say “please don’t let me choose” and finally she chose “then let’s be friends”

Later she sent me messages like, “I don’t want to loose you, I don’t know why i’m doing this. Forgive me please”

I said i forgive.. gave her a call… she said to give her time to think. I didn’t write her or called her, and she said, “why don’t u contact me?”

It’s just so weird, since this came all of a sudden and she even went to visit my family with me in Asia, we planned to go to the US over the summer as a couple to my house… I’m so confused…She is too. What to do?

we argued over 6 hours about this relationship being without stability now.. and im so insecure.

help…

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¡ʎuɐɟɟıʇ offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (12 minutes after post)

Wait, so you have been together 1.5 years ..and 1 year of that has been your engagement?

Idk. Did she have any other things going on? (Family problems, work problems, etc?)

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An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (29 minutes after post)

What part of it isnt stable? Break it all down into little things and talk it through with her and be considerate of things eachother says. The solutions to problems varry from person to person. Maybe a talk is good enough, maybe you have to just take a break for a short time and see other people and see if you still want eachother, maybe its going on a nice vacation together. Hey its your girl, you should know what to do about it if you think it through carefully.

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An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (4 hours, 21 minutes after post)

i know. she doenst have nething goin on other then being sick with a high temperature of 38.5 (110F)

i dont think she wants to talk, because she said she wants space and time… yet she tells me to contact her.

i would like to go to vacation together now… to the US invite her to my place.. but she was goin as a fiance.. but now.. she wanted to go as a friend.. and then.. she’s not sure of going or not.

we were studying GRE together to get a master in the US in a year… but now.. she said she’ll just go back to UK, however she did ask if i want to go too. i have no idea wuz going on in her mind.

the stable part.. is the fact that i was soooo sure she would never leave. it just hit me that i could actually loose her. I don’t want that. I love her only.

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An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (10 hours, 52 minutes after post)

Communication and trust is needed for a good relationship.

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