Love help: My boyfriend dumped me because I confronted him over a personal card and bills, left hanging around his flat.

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My boyfriend dumped me because I confronted him over a personal card and bills, left hanging around his flat.

The card, from his ex, said how much she loved him and they were the best couple ever in the world. He said she sent it out of the blue but how can that be? It looked very personal. We’d been together for over two months by this point and he’s not spoken to her since three month past, and he was only with her for five months in total….. he swore and shouted at me over the card and made me cry

I also found a gas receipt from near her house - she lived some way from him - when he said he was elsewhere and a restaurant check. When I confronted him he dumped me and threw me out of his house.

Get this straight I was pretty good to him for most of the time and sweet but his ex started calling him and asking for him to go back and I dunno - something just never felt right?

He also lied about going out with a woman for the night that he had cheated on his ex with - he said it would of been weird not to spend time with her. I don’t know if anything happened. We had a row but I then felt it was all my fault for not trusting him.

I feel very sad as I liked him a lot and cared about him - the day before he threw me out he said we had something special. But how could I ignore the fact that he was with the other girl for part of the time when he was with me - he lied.

I am sad and confused and feel more than a bit depressed. He also said I was always over reacting - hence my confusion.

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kyle-sylvester 1 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 1 week ago (7 minutes after post)

Well for one thing, it is not end of the world if a guy hangs out with another girl it is possible for guys to be friends with girls even past girlfriends i broke up with my ex 2 years ago and me and my girlfriend always hang out with her. second the card could be sent out of jealousy. she could have heard that you and him were together and wanted to get him in trouble. the receipt i would hardly consider a big deal. yes it puts him close to where she is but thats all it does. it does not prove that he was by her. I understand why you would question him but it is extremely annoying and very hurtful when someone your with does not trust you and always brings up past relationship. I don’t want to sound like am just picking on you cause like i said i understand your jealousy but you have to really stand back and look at all possibilities jump to conclusions is the worst thing someone can do. like my math teacher always said :”never assume cause to assume is to make and “***” out of “U” and “ME” “. as for the going out with someone else that he cheated with his ex yes that is questionable but it could still also just be on friend terms. Trust is what makes a relationship the minute your ignore that it will all go to hell.

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6 months, 1 week ago (8 minutes after post)

I don’t think you over reacted… you followed your gut instinct… find someone trust worthy…. he’s not worth the heartache he will cause you in the future.

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An Unknown Location | 6 months, 1 week ago (37 minutes after post)

imagine how you would feel if you hadn’t said anything. you would always wonder. regardless of whether or not he was cheating, he should have been able to talk to you without dumping you. i mean, your concerns were understandable.

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krissie 0 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 1 week ago (45 minutes after post)

I’m not jealous by the way. I have had boyfriends before where girls had crushes on them and I never got mad. Just like guys have hit on me when I’m with someone else - but with him it was different. He sort of acted strange when I first got to know him and toward the end - there was something up. And I only asked him coz these girls were in touch with him. I should of been able to ask but he often just belittled me.

littlenick 152 #
An Undisclosed Location | 6 months, 1 week ago (2 hours, 47 minutes after post)

Good riddance. He was bound to cheat on you anyway.

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (4 months, 4 weeks after post)

i think that he should of told you about her instead of keepin it from you because it will make you think something

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