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i was just having the same feelings as you and really wanted to post something similar .. seems that everyone have these feelings once and a while .. maybe its the way we think .. we shouldn’t be so negative and try to look at the bright side for even the small details ( i know when you hear that you go like ” this is so obvious why don’t they say something else” ) but its really in our face i mean we are living right ? why not make the best of it? ( i should take a lesson or two from what im saying myself )

hope i wasn’t confusing you and wish you well ~

Follow your instincts. Cut your hair. Be free. It’s hard to do, I know, but once you’ve broken the rules of the reality that you know, then you’ll start to understand. Work hard, be good, and learn to follow your instincts. A good life will follow.

Me too. I hope yours is a phase you grow out of.

chaoticpixie wrote:
well i always grow out of it. but its frustrating sometimes. and u make sense electrock

thx for the compliment, and hope you really grow out of it and never look back try to distract yourself from what you’re really thinking and ponder about something that you like

good luck ~

Story of my life. Sometimes I’m up, and feel untouchable, sometimes I feel so low and filled with depression and anger at myself. I look at the past far too much worrying about regrets, etc.

I know how you feel. I can’t say I can give you advice. I’m (most of the time) better at dealing with it than a few years ago, but still, things occasionally get to you. Usually I just use the whole positive thinknig; any mistakes I’ve made have made me wiser, and hard experiences have made me stronger, if things are hard now, then they’ll be easier in the future because of the strength it will give me.

Thinking possitively is difficult. A large part of it is to do with that internal dialogue, or self talk. You have to actually talk yourself into a positive outlook and tell yourself to stop when you’re thinknig destructively.

There are several destructive thought processes (if you google it, you’ll find articles that I’m sure you may realise you do, and how to avoid them). When reading about psychology of depression, one thing that stuck in my mind was when interviewing people who suffered from depression, they found that when asks questions about aspects of their life in general (as opposed to specific occurances) they were more positive.

So basically when you are thinking about a subject (love, your work, academia, etc), try to avoid thinking about specific occurances and more about your experience as a whole over your life.

There are certain thought processes you should avoid, like dwelling on regrets. Never play the ‘what if’ or ‘if only’ game (eg- if only I had done this, if only that hadn’t happenned). Think more proactively (what can I take/learn from that experience to avoid it in the future, what can I aim for, what good things are on the way).

Getting out of a negative thought process is difficult. The cognitive processes mean that if you experience one failure or bad experience, your brain automatically starts thinking of any other failures/experiences and failing to think of the positives (this is physical because your brain actually stores associated information together). It’s the same on the other side; thinking about personal successes/positive experiences will remind you of other positives.
Tests have been done where participants were given some arbitry test and were either told that they did well or badly (regardless of their actual result) then left on their own for 20 or 30 minutes. After that time, a tester would come in and tell them that what they were told was a lie and that their given results were completely random and unrelated to their actual performance. They were then asked how they thought they really would have performed and those givent he false negatives still thought they would have done badly and vice versa, despite the fact that they’d been told it was a false result.

So you can force yourself to be positive, you just have to force yourself to think about all the times you acheived something, or good things happenned to you and not negative things. You will end up optimistic and happier.

Finally, the hardest part about negative thinking is self fulfilled prophecy. This is another aspect of pschology. Someone who thinks negatively or is pessimistic about something will be looking for aspects of a situation (or person, etc) to prove their belief.
There has been testing done with this, where participants would be told that another participant was an introvert and pessimistic, and others would be told the opposite, and when different members met the same person, they were asked afterwards what they thought of them, and they correlated with what they were initially told.

Basically my point is, in short, negativity breeds negativity and positivity breeds positivity. It’s an actual cognitive process. The hardest part of getting out of a depressed or negative outlook is the first step, and once you start being positive it will perpetuate itself.

Focus on your successes and positive experiences. Tell yourself to stop when you start thinking negatively. Happiness truly is a state of mind.

PS - Sorry about the rant.

Though I do suggest downloading some psychology lectures and having a listen. Helps to at least understand things a bit.

No_spoon, where do you download psychology lectures from? That sounds interesting, I’d love to listen to some

GoGators wrote:
No_spoon, where do you download psychology lectures from? That sounds interesting, I’d love to listen to some

http://freebooksource.com/?p=3689

I just googled that one, but those are the same lectures I listenned to. There are others around too, just got to have a bit of a search

Although I just torrent it