i really dont know…i’ve kept myself shut from the entire whole world after a very bad break up
riyashah wrote:
i really dont know…i’ve kept myself shut from the entire whole world after a very bad break up
how do you think we’d recover from that? gather up with good friends we’ve had ( even if its been ages since we’ve seen them thats what im thinking ) but i feel awkward jumping outta the blue when they’ve not seen me for a while … and its the only good solution that i have .. any other suggestions ? like getting addicted to a book or a movie might help or get things worse? i am in my own world now and not much human contact i really feel bad since i was so nice and friendly with other ppl >_
Hmm, I think that if you can find the right people whom you trust it is possible. I know there was a time when pretty much all my friends betrayed me. It was horrible and I didnt think I would be able to move on or trust anyone, but now I have found some good friends who I trust, and those I dont trust, they dont get told anything I cannot trust them with.
i have not met my friends since a long time. i dedicated my whole life for past 4 years to keep my boyfriend happy,but he left me for his parents
Florence22 wrote:
i have not met my friends since a long time. i dedicated my whole life for past 4 years to keep my boyfriend happy,but he left me for his parents
i’m really sorry to hear that .. but would it help if you try making him meet your parents aswell ?
giggle399 wrote:
Hmm, I think that if you can find the right people whom you trust it is possible. I know there was a time when pretty much all my friends betrayed me. It was horrible and I didnt think I would be able to move on or trust anyone, but now I have found some good friends who I trust, and those I dont trust, they dont get told anything I cannot trust them with.
is it possible that the time when you don’t feel like interacting with anyone is about 4 months? you feel like you want to be alone most of the time .. and whenever ur friends call u , u just excuse urself for the stupid reasons >_ atm i really hate myself right when i wanted to tell them everything ..
his parents are important for him, not me, thats what happened to me
yeah, that is a normal amount of time. I didnt really stop keeping in touch with the friends who were still friends.
Florence22 wrote:
his parents are important for him, not me, thats what happened to me
for every person parents are important after all they’ve brought you to this life .. i mean you would want him to like your parents too right?
try making new friends, that might help, but i still could’nt
i’l tell you what happened, we both still love eachother, but his parents told him to leave me as am of different religion, he’s been forced to do so, we tried our best to change their mind
Florence22 wrote:
try making new friends, that might help, but i still could’nt
i know what you mean .. you see i like my old friends but i feel that they kinda feel that i betrayed them for not being able to talk to them for a while .. and i couldn’t and feel like a bad friend .. i know im running in circles with myself here and been tryint to keep in touch with them for over a month but i feel like i lost myself T_T
giggle399 wrote:
yeah, that is a normal amount of time. I didnt really stop keeping in touch with the friends who were still friends.
what scares me here is that i never did what i did … i just shut myself from everyone the bad AND the good .. what to do to heal?
its a scary situation as am going through the same..i don’t feel like interacting with anyone actually
Florence22 wrote:
its a scary situation as am going through the same..i don’t feel like interacting with anyone actually
when i ask myself .. why im doing this cuz its obvisouly not making me happy but depressed by the second .. i just don’t know the reason .. i just wanted to hide away .. and i hate it want to break out but still don’t have the courage to do so .. yet whats killing me is that i go to school everyday and have to run away from class to class till the schedule is done .. so that i won’t run into any of them YET WHY DO I DO THAT ?!?! i really want to know .. since i was a very outgoing person ..
wish i could give you a hug..that will make you feel better..
Florence22 wrote:
wish i could give you a hug..that will make you feel better..
aww thank you *hugs back* .. yet really Florence22 whats the healing potion for this condition .. is it to push myself on my old pals and even if it makes me feel awkward? :S then it might lead to good humor ? or will it be a bad thing to do?
its not a bad thing at all. if your friends are understanding they’l never make it awkward for you, trust me.
Florence22 wrote:
its not a bad thing at all. if your friends are understanding they’l never make it awkward for you, trust me.
thanks .. ya im sure they’ll understand but its just that i don’t know what to explain to them why i haven’t seen them in a while you know .. like not wanting to see anyone ? i don’t want them to see me as a depressed person usually i was perky bubbly and i’ve waited all this time so that i regain myself and nothing is happening so i’ve realized that maybe cuz i miss them im like this now?
(sorry if every answer you give me i give you another question )
oh, well I think that if you talked t the good or try opening up to them now and explain everything, then perhaps it will help you to heal.
ya, thats right, open up with them.
ok then .. i’ll try gathering up the courage to meet up soon .. yet i really need this push even if my confidence has leapt down but i do agree seeing them will cheer me up and thanks for the advice Florence22 and giggle399 *group hug* XD
take care, always have a smile on ya face
Florence22
giggle399