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Why are you even in touch with him just torturing yourself? He’s out of your reach and pretty soon will be married to another woman. What gives?

i say tell him how you feel,
even though there is not much
you can do about the situation.

LOL - His mum arranges a marriage as PUNISHMENT! Nobody else seeing the funny side of this?

indeed.

and if you still want to be friends, knowing you should never expect more, you’ll have to deal with it.

umm this is kinda hard you see .. if he is happy by being married to her and you’re still going to be his friend then i feel that you should have your feelings as just friends in order not for you to get hurt and for him to get on with his life .. i mean since he sees you as a friend right? so be his friend and try to think about someone else

Hey, so it’s a hard type of problem that you’re having to deal with. I like this guy a lot, I told him, he said he liked me back, and then he got a different girlfriend. I’m not really sure how that happened but it did. And he’s happy with her. Everytime he mentions her I feel bad, but then I try to think of how happy he is with her and I put his feelings ahead of mine. Now, seeing as it’s different when it comes to your situation, the only thing I can tell you, is that it’s probably best that you take some time to think of how you should deal with it. Good luck with everything.

My opinions is this: I think you want to be friends with hoping that he divorces his wife and he gets with you. You still harbor the hope that he might get with you. Leave him alone. Is not worth the headache.

I think you just want to make a hard situation harder. Leave him alone and forget about the friendship. That guy is gone and he’s out of your life and you should quit obsessing over him.

Well i think that you can tell him how you feel but not completly tell him not to mention her because she is gunna be a part of his life and your gunna have to get used to dealing with it

so he already knows how you feel?

What do you think he’s going to talk about if he’s married? You tell him I don’t want to hear about your wife and he’s going to think that you want to get with him, married or not. Have a little dignity and self respect for yourself. Now, you sound clingy and desperate.

If I was you, I would walk away from the whole situation. Friendship or not. Put it in your head, he’s gone, married, and out of your reach! Wake up!!!!

if you dont tell him you’ll never know,
so just tell him and see how it goes from there

i understand what your saying,
i have been in a similar situation-the thing is with me
im a very open person i dont know if this applys to you or not
but if not go with your gut instinct. hope all works out

If you stay friends with this guy, you will never get over him. I don’t care what you do. And if he ever feels lonely or neglected by his wife, you will feel sorry for him and guess what? You will become his mistress! I don’t know how much plain and clearer I can make it. You will never, ever, get over him. He will be your friend with benefits. (for him only!)

i think what littlenick is saying is that you should not hope for anything else then friendship - because if you do, you’re going to have a sad time being in love with a friend that doesn’t love you back ‘that way’ - wanting something you cannot have, and not being open for other relationships to develop… you’ll lose years over it.

it doesn’t matter if he’s aware or not that it hurts you when he mentions her - that’s your problem to deal with. if you really see him as a friend, then his life and surely his wife must matter to you as well. otherwise you’re simply deceiving yourself and silently hoping for more, even if it means waiting, and waiting…

if this is the case i have to agree with littlenick. move on. if you think you can just be friends, then go for it. it is possible.

I feel like you should tell him honestly how you feel, and do tell him that thoughts of his marriage does pain you. Seeing as he was forced into the marriage, i feel like he will be more understanding. he is your friend he respects you

first of all:
im sorry for you
at the moment there seemes to be no chance for you to stay his friend without being tortured by the thought of his marriage.
If you really want to stay his friend the only way you can do so is honestly forget about your time together and move on. Find another friend and maybe tell him that you are gonna come to the wedding of his.
You need to move on.