Love help: I’m in love with someone.

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I’m in love with someone.

I have been for a long time. But she doesn’t love me back. she is just a friend. I’ve told her how I feel many times. I don’t want to love her, I just want to be friends but I can’t help it. It hurts me everyday, I’m always distracted and anxious. It’s hurting our friendship. I don’t know what to. I love her too much. I hate it. Help

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atomicskifisher 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

she constantly asks me if im depressed or suicidal and i dont know what to tell her

giggle399 4 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

well, I don’t know what to say if you have already tried to move on and can’t. And it would be too hard to stay away… maybe you can confide in a councilor and get some real help.

Help me with: Please, I need advice!

fenderman31 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

Is she currently in a relationship? If so, wait till they break up, then move in and be the one that will “rescue her”.

If single, just give it time, I know it hurts just waiting, im going through a long “waiting” process right now, but it will work, trust me.

Anonymous #
5 months, 3 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

are u feeling depressed and suicidal?

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (17 minutes after post)

no not currently. the last boyfriend she had was my bestfriend, who she dated for like 4 months. it was torture. and she still talks to him more than me. I’ve been waiting 3 years-its looking pretty dim

I.. Don’t know. I’m always depressed i guess. nothing really seems happy anymore. I hate myself. I’m just not good enough. Suicidal? no, I dont want to die. But i feel like i have no reason to live

Anonymous #
5 months, 3 weeks ago (20 minutes after post)

what have you said when she has asked you?

atomicskifisher 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (23 minutes after post)

I told her what i just said in my previous post. but i didnt tell her that she’s mostly the cause of it. I can’t bear to cause her pain or worry or stress, or even worse guilt

Anonymous #
5 months, 3 weeks ago (36 minutes after post)

ok, there are alot of anon posts so I’m not sure which one is yours to know what was in it
have you sought professional help at all help?

atomicskifisher 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (40 minutes after post)

im considering it

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (43 minutes after post)

ugh i dont know. everything seems so hopeless. i dont want to love her. i tried to make her hate me a while back, to see if that would end it, if she was mean to me or whatever. but shes always caring and pitying. its torture

Anonymous #
5 months, 3 weeks ago (4 hours, 20 minutes after post)

I would suggest seeing your doctor to start with and have a chat, they can point you in a good direction to get some professional advice and treatment for your feelings.
I wouldnt go trying to change your relationship as it stands with her by trying to make her ‘hate’ you, it may seem like an ‘easy, less confrontational’ way but its not real for a start, and its still just as painful if not more so!
A professional can help guide you into making minor adjustments that lead to big changes, and of course, we are always here to talk to along the way :)

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (8 hours, 8 minutes after post)

Hey, okay, this is what I think you should do, speaking from experience of both BEING the girl in one of these kind of situations, AND having been in the same position as you…

Okay, to be entirely honest, I think she might have an inkling that you like her, cause girls always do know these things…sorry!! And unless you’re TOTALLY sure that she doesn’t like you back, and that you will NEVER happen, then you should just tell her how you feel and basically, just make it as sweet as what you said in your first post, because if you do, I’m pretty sure she would find it REALLY flattering and give you a chance, especially if you’re good friends already. Believe me, I was hugely in love with MY best guy friend, and bottled out of telling him at the last minute, so right now, he’s dating an absolute GODDESS whilst I’m sitting there regretting it…:( NOT good. And at least if you tell her, you’ll know that you didn’t just sit there in silence while she dated another guy, and you at least TRIED to say something. I know you’ve said you’ve tried to say it before, but, you should give it one last go, and do it perfectly. :)

However, if you honestly do know that realistically, the two of you aren’t going to be together, I know this will sound unbelievably unhelpful, but you NEED to try and get over her, maybe by looking at other girls you’re close to, or at someone new altogether to take your mind off her. I know it seems like it’ll be too hard, but in the end I moved on from my best friend and found an absolutely lovely boyfriend because of it…:)

I hope that helps, I’m sorry if it’s all a bit rambly!! But you seem very sweet, and she’s a lucky girl! :)

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (2 weeks, 3 days after post)

Ok. this girl has gone from dating one of my best friends, to my eexact other best friend. i mean i want them both to be happy, but this is torture. fml.

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5 months ago (2 weeks, 4 days after post)

seriously, if you cant get a manage on this, especially after being given good advice from these people that have taken the time to try to help you that you have obviously not even tried, then leave the entire situation alone, there are many people in the world, you do not ‘need’ this friendship, it is doing more harm than good, if you choose against good judgment to remain in a situation that is causing you so much pain, then so be it, we’re not here to lul you, were here to help you make sensible decisions, dont say you cant help if she keeps dating your friends, if thats happening then shes obviously making the rounds and really isnt worth a pinch anyway, get a new circle of friends who dont play around with girls so easy
Have you even tried anything you have been advised, have you even sought professional help?

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 2 weeks ago (1 month, 1 week after post)

i have a boyfriend but i’m inlove his best friend what do i do?

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Anonymous #
4 months, 2 weeks ago (1 month, 1 week after post)

you stop leading your boyfriend on for a start!

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