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Looks or personality?

Really like this guy, but he’s not the best looking of blokes, and yet he’s very nice. I went out with him before one time, and my friends skitted him for being “ugly”. So, looks or personality?

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fruit.n.nut offline Verified User (10 months, 4 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (2 minutes after post)

Looks fade with time…personality flys throughout time!

Personalliy, personality! Forget what others thins, if they think he is ugly, are they really your friends? be yourself…im sure u know what is the right thing to do…

xx

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friendlyheart offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 27 #
An Undisclosed Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (2 minutes after post)

i’d like to say personality..
but unfortuanetely to a certain level looks are important too.. i mean i’d say
30 % looks 70 % personality :)
and if you have a great time with him, and you liked him then i say don’t worry about what others say;)

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~LazyDaze~ offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 241 #
An Undisclosed Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (2 minutes after post)

Personality.
Looks will fade sooner or later, I would rather be left with a fun loving person than someone who has no personality AND wrinkled like a prune living the rest of my life in the old folks home wiping his ***.

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Itchen, M4, GB | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

We would all love to say Personality
but looks are alwassy important too otherwise there isn’t really any attraction!

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emmaphillips. offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

Dont listen to what your friend thinks.

Personality. looks is a pleasent bonus.
But you cant have a close relationship if theres no attraction.

but ask yourself :

Do i really like this guy ?

Hopefully you shouyld find your anser.
You can always break it off if it doesnt work out!

Emma x

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~LazyDaze~ offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 241 #
An Undisclosed Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

Eat me? wrote:
We would all love to say Personality
but looks are alwassy important too otherwise there isn’t really any attraction!

How do you explain people who fall in love over the internet then?
Maybe it is hard to understand how anyone would say personality over looks but what someone finds attractive will always differ to another, Someone can look really attractive to me but as soon as they open their mouth and garbage comes out then in an instant they seem ugly.
I will always choose personality, maybe a few years ago I would have said looks but people who know they look attractive to the majority of the world are the ugliest people in mind I have ever met.

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Im_Locked_Out offline Verified User (10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

leave him and find someone hu you dont have to question why ur with him

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emmaphillips. offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

Ive got to agree with lazydaze on this one.
as i said a relationship cant be built around looks. If theres a warm personality you can go much farther.
If hes a nice guy then you should go for it.

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Itchen, M4, GB | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (19 minutes after post)

~LazyDaze~ wrote:

Eat me? wrote:
We would all love to say Personality
but looks are alwassy important too otherwise there isn’t really any attraction!

How do you explain people who fall in love over the internet then?
Maybe it is hard to understand how anyone would say personality over looks but what someone finds attractive will always differ to another, Someone can look really attractive to me but as soon as they open their mouth and garbage comes out then in an instant they seem ugly.
I will always choose personality, maybe a few years ago I would have said looks but people who know they look attractive to the majority of the world are the ugliest people in mind I have ever met.

Haa, that showed me!
Yes i guess you’re right there
i just think that if you think ( as your own personal opinion) thats someone is reeeeeeeeeeaaaly unattractive, then i doubt it would ever work becuase of that thought!
but the same with personality i guess!!

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IDon'tEverQuit offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 127 #
An Undisclosed Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (25 minutes after post)

Personality. Who wants to be with someone who is beautiful but has 0 personality?

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IDon'tEverQuit offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 127 #
An Undisclosed Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (26 minutes after post)

To me, if you like this guy and he treats you good that’s all that matters. Ignore your friends.

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6 months, 3 weeks ago (28 minutes after post)

A wonderful personality can make a person good looking. The way the face changes when they laugh a lot, etc. I have met good looking guys who treated me like dirt and I have met not so good looking guys who treated me like a queen. You decide. Your the one who will see him all the time, you make the choice.

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fruit.n.nut offline Verified User (10 months, 4 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (47 minutes after post)

its not the physical apperance one fall in love with…otherwise if its looks people fall in love with, then the whole world would be in love with all the barbi doll’s and glamor models and hunks!

So if u want real love…see the person he is inside…and personality is what is the person…

also lazy dane…good on ya!

xx

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anubisblis offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 33 minutes after post)

the question is what will make you happy? Will you regret being with him later on in life (hypothetically) knowing that you could have done better (just a thought) or would you be perfectly satisfied having him? It’s your call.

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Sans offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 57 #
An Undisclosed Location | 6 months, 2 weeks ago (5 hours, 6 minutes after post)

His looks obviously don’t look bad to you, so who cares what others think? People are terrible about labeling someone as ugly if they look different. If the relationship lasts, you will see him as the most handsome guy in the world.

If not, a paper grocery bag and a pair of scissors should do the trick.

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Genesis721 offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 11 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 2 weeks ago (8 hours, 55 minutes after post)

Bravo Sans, that made my day, Oh it’s night. Anyway thanks.

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sundragonfly offline Verified User (6 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 2 weeks ago (1 month after post)

Hey its your life if you like the guy then go out with him. Personality is better as you know you can trust the guy and he will not let you down. Any way if its his image he can always get haircut and change his clothes.

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