I’m sorry if this is selfish but… - Help.com

You think about life as more of an adventure and not a struggle… You see how great life is because you feel good..You see the potential in life and stop worrying so much.. You start wanting to improve yourself and dream about the future. You dont see the glass half full nor half empty, but you now actually see the glass..

Now that you depression is gone you go on to living your life the way it’s meant to be lived. Don’t over analyze the fact that you don’t have depression anymore or think that there is nothing else, because THAT is going to depress you! I don’t think you want that.

Do you have a daily schedule of activities or work or things you do around your house or apartment? If not, get one. Try to get a schedule of your daily life going. And whatever free time you have in between do things you actually enjoy doing. You need to think about yourself and how you can bring happiness within to yourself.

Think about what your going to do next! go make a big sammich the best thats ever been made! or maybe say hmm, I might go out for a drink or see that new film or the best one! read a book :)

Have you read my essay on depression? Do you want to read it?

Raver,

It’s often a common side affect after you battle something for so long you become emotionally, mentally, exaughsted..it seems like you have reached that plateu in victory over your depression which is become passive. The best thing you can do is live life day to day time will often help heal that kind of thing. The next step is to learn how to love your self and just live life.

If i’m honest with you my brain doesnt do so much thinking and stuff, mostly worrying and then deciding if i want a sandwich, nothing major lmao. what part of the UK you from?

Depression is never comforting–ever! Depression is the worst kind of enemy you can have in your life. And you don’t even wish that on your worst enemies! You don’t want it; you don’t need it; you don’t look for it; you don’t deserve it. Yet, it keeps on looking for you and wanting you and it finds you, it keeps on making you think that you need to feel depressed because you think that is how everybody thinks of you anyway. So sometimes some people accept it and find it that depression is their comfort zone.

I have felt such depression in my life. It’s when you think that maybe you have not been a good person and your depression is your damnation for eternity. I thought sometimes that it would be better if I was not in this world and that life for everybody else would be much easier and better if I was not around, but I overcame it. It is a poison that poisons you and sometimes poisons your family, your neighbors, your friends, even acquaintances that barely know you because they don’t know how to deal with it and with you when you are depressed.

For some people it’s fatal. They end up committing suicide because they see death as the only way out of their depression. Some people end up killing other people because they want to blame others for their depression and end up hurting innocent people who don’t even know that the person was even depressed.

I have seen firsthand those depressed people who end up exploding like a big volcano spewing boiling lava and decimating everything and everybody on its path. I never found comfort in my depression. I never wanted to go back nor do I want to go back to it now. I do not want to be familiar with it ever again, even though sometimes I still have bouts of depression but not as severe. I fight my way out of that depression and thank God it still has not won against me.

It took me a long time of panic attacks, depression attacks, withdrawals from my family and friends to come to terms that I was the one who was going to have to attack my depression instead of letting it attack me. I was going to make things happen instead of letting things happen to me.

It’s no picnic when you have all the curtains in your room closed and do not and cannot leave your house because you don’t want to see the light of day or face people in your life because you think that they are out to get you and don’t understand what you are going through. Because is never easy to understand by people who don’t have it. But it’s not their fault nor is it yours. Is that stupid depression’s fault. Is all those days when you don’t even want to talk to your parents, your children, to your brother, to your sister, your teachers, your counselor, when you feel at your worst and think that the abyss that you are facing will never end and you are going to keep on falling in without stop. Everybody is a victim of your depression. The sad part is that you are the one with it, you are the one who has to deal with it.

Other people want you to be normal and do not understand how debilitating this sickness is. Other people think that you are “faking” it because you don’t want to go to work or school and want to be taken care of by your family. They think that you are just lazy and just don’t want to get out of bed. What they don’t know is that depression gets a hold of you and won’t let you go sometimes no matter what you do, what other people do, what everybody tells you and all the things combined that everybody can do. I do hope that anybody who reads this someday can find comfort in something else other than depression and I do hope that you don’t want to stay in that familiar territory of being depressed all the time. Come out. Fight as much as you can fight against this horrible decease that afflicts millions and millions of people. God bless everybody and anybody who is suffering from this horrible illness and pray that you and anybody you know who affected by this illness makes a full recovery and never become depressed again.

Raver,

There are many ways to learn to love your self. Make a list of things that others like about you. Look in the mirror and tell your self I am amazing. Just know that you are amazing and that no one can take it away from you. Smile a lot watch a movie that makes you happy or smile or laugh. Think positive.

raver,

i wreckon u shud start doing fun things and rule out the way u became depressed to start…do stuff that makes u laugh..i know it hard 2 focus on the good stuff all the time and we get down very easy when we are bored but when u feel this way u must pick urself up and done something like a walk,a game,cinema etc….life is nvr easy….

You’re so used to being trapped in negative thoughts you’re a bit lost hm?

The key is to set goals, commit to them, and work every day on getting to them.

Simple goals might be running a marathon. Start with joining a learning to run group. Learn to run up to 5k. Enter some races. There’s nutrition, fashion, exercises, reading, training…. same with biking and swimming. Maybe set a goal for a triathlon.

Set a goal to sell a novel.

Etc etc. Every goal has a long string of steps to reach it. Those steps will keep you occupied AND will open up so many new doors as you socialize with new people, share what you are learning, and learn from others.

Well lets start with the basic questions of…

What do you like about your self?

What do you want in life?

What seperates you from others?

go to study something new.
a course about anything that might interest you.
that would keep your mind busy with lots of things you would enjoy thinking about.

The most horrible thing about depression, is the trapped feeling. Your not just trapped in the thoughts you have and feelings you experience, you also find yourself trapped in the present moment. You can’t bare to think about the next day, because it can’t be any better than now, and because of this “the present” becomes one elongated moment of despair.

Because of this, breaking free of depression often leaves an emptiness, because you’ve gone so long trying to ignore tomorrow, that it becomes difficult to plan and dream of the future.

Find what you care about. Think of Andy. Think of school. Think of work. Think of friends. These are what matter to you. Perhaps the reason you can’t daydream about winning the lottery is because its not what’s most appealing to you at the moment. Imagine a career as a counselor, or a life with Andy, or traveling to another country to visit a friend ;)

The most important thing for you to do now, is just to learn how to plan and dream for the future you want, because for the first time in a long time the future seems like it could be pretty great.

Keep your chin up love :)

raver allow me to help.

1. Your a very intellectual person a lot of people don’t realize these problems and talk about it they just continue to live it out.

2. You are amazing for being alive some people can’t even handle the struggle and do end up dying or comitting suicide.

3. You are a very strong woman

4. You deserve to be happy

5. You have such a good out look on life you seem like you respect things

6. The obvious by the picture your amazingly attractive woman and that’s something a lot of girls wish they could have.

7. You are down to earth

now you tell me what do you like about your self raver? tell me and every1 else here.

8. Will you go out with me?

9. No, she will not go out with anybody but me! :)

hahaha goin 2 fight over her u sure are beautiful good luck girl!

Just a take on depression fro a different angle… I believe depression is a spiritual illness, that manifests itself as a physical disorder, It changes your brain chemistry, so that the brain can no longer put out the feel good chemicals or hormones that it once was able to.. ie.serotonin,and other endorphins … But my take on it is a little different then mainstream.. I see our the way we treat our environment,the way we treat each other, the way we are fighting each other, going to war and the list goes on ,a reason why so many of us are going through this spiritual illness…Its not healthy period….In fact if you was a caring thinking person to begin with and your spiritual side is being bombarded by all this insanity on this planet, I would think it would be un natural to not slip into depression… there are many ways to restore the natural balance of the brain.. One is medication and the other being alternative medicine.. I am a fan of the latter, but its not for everyone…I believe to really heal from your depression you should examine your thought also… Though the nature of depression is to bring about negative thinking, if you give into this you can feed the illness tenfold.. Your job is to start seeing beauty in small thing again.. Start actively seeing some positives in life again…Force yourself to at first… Walk a lot, or dance., or bicycle for movement is an enemy of depression..Start eating a better healthier diet with more fruits and vegetables, and please give up sugar…You can beat this, but it requires a commitment from you to see the greatness in life again, one baby step at a time..

:)

Now that you guys hit on this gal she left the site.. Cant you control it

She left the house for a bit, she’ll be back.

Oh and she already has a boyfriend. But I’m pretty sure if she didn’t she’d leave her country and come marry me…its just common sense ;)

♥Rαvєr♥ wrote:
I think it is hard to be positive considering the world we live in.

The world we live in is better than it ever has been in the past. More people live longer and healthier than ever before. More people are concerned about helping each other and taking care of the planet.

If you feel down, you will find tons of things to justify your depression. There always have been problems (world wars, plagues, crime, etc) and there always will be.

I don’t believe in “thinking positive” about problems. However, I do recognize that it is important to realize when you are in a downward spin and stop with the negative thoughts and distract yourself by finding something positive and interesting to latch onto. There’s nothing wrong or unrealistic with spending time with people who are energetic and positive, avoiding complainers, choosing goals and pursuing them whatever they are even if it’s something simple.

Worrying about the world doesn’t help anything and makes you depressed. But accomplishing small things makes you feel better which means you have energy to share with the world… which helps everyone. Ever had someone smile at you on the street or in a store for no reason or say hello or help you with something? Those small acts boost people up and help them look positively on the rest of their day.

Be one of those people and you will accomplish far more and you’ll be happier and more confident.

Because you are used to your mind analyzing every thought, and worrying about every detail, it can be hard when it slows down. I myself enjoy the calm after the storm. Don’t worry about the calm, it will only bring back the depression. Just enjoy it.

I usually used this time to get organized. The depression usually leaves a mess behind. So I clean the house ,closets, drawers, the car, the garage ect…. I like the feeling of a fresh start. As the house gets put back together, I start feeling more put back together.

I don’t focus on the future, just the present. When there is nothing to do, I go for a walk. Look for the beauty - in people, in nature, in the buildings you pass.

In time you are going to find something that grabs your attention and thoughts. In a calm an healthy way.

well how are you feeling today raver?

I dont know whether my advice can help anyone. But here is what I do, when I feel bad (I never felt depressed, may be because i never let it happen)
If you feel bad, just relax, make sure you are alone, and you talk to yourself. You are your best friend, because only you know where you went wrong.

Raver - You sound like ME!!!! OMG! I honestly couldnt tell you one thing i like about myself! I feel its like im boasting or saying im better then others, so i just dont do it! I LOVE helping people! It was my senior project in high school! I volunteered at charities, food kitchens, etc. I feel so humbled to help people its really my favorite thing to do!

I can say that my favorite thing about myself is my eyes. And over the years i have come up with a good answer as to why. My eyes are a very dark blue color that have silver streaks throughout them and a pretty green just around my pupil. Know why i like them? Not becuase im bragging that my eyes are beautiful, but because i get them from my parents. They both have blue eyes, just lighter then mine, and my mom has the green around her pupil and my dad has silver in his eyes. I like my eyes the most becuase they share the most about me! Both sides of my family! I have these eyes beause they were given to me by my parents!

Im on depression meds now and im also afraid of what i will do when its gone. I know thats weriod to think but i just am ready to be better! And i also think that my depression has to do with lots of things. I am tackeling each thing one at a time. Thats all i can do!

You will be great in life and im sure you will find plenty of things to fill your time! Just dont be scared and dont let it hold you back!!!! Be free!!!!!

I dunno if this will help but here is what I can only say.

-Just Focus on a new goal.
-If hobbies aren’t really you’re thing there are many more out there you
just have to explore.
-But no matter how we help you its always up to you.

wen i was depressed i found that i started playin guitar an taught myself, started reading and learning things an tryin new things out - anythin to take my mind out of it. how bad was ur depression since i kno this is old

wat happened? dont need to say if yhou dont want to mind! but yeah are you better now ?